Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening. Today on Ask Dr. Kim, the question that was submitted is, my husband and I

feel so lonely so often. How do we make good Christian

friendships that can benefit our marriage? I feel like there's a lot of couples out there who are

really struggling with this. Dr. Kim, why do you think so many couples are struggling to make

quality friends these days? I think culture has a lot to do with it. I think a lot of couples both work.

And so they're both in the workplace,

but they're not making, they may make friends from work, but they're not a couple friends.

And then I think the whole idea of our culture, you know, people change jobs, they move cities.

I think there's a lot more transient than there used to be. And so I think we've got that.

So you go to new city and then you got to start over and plug in. And I think, you know, I've worked with couples in the past that that have probably done that real well.

They're both maybe real outgoing and they do that easier than other couples.

But I think many couples struggle with that.

We had a couple that moved here that Nancy helped them find a home and they'd moved from a different city. And it was just, they were here about two years and it was a struggle

for them the whole time. They just never could get connected. You know, we reached out to them a

couple of times, but we just, Nancy gave my ideas, but they just couldn't connect. So I think that's

a problem that a lot of people deal with. And then I think goes back to, you know, we are, we do busy lives. And, you know, we, you know, Nancy,

have a busy life. If we meet somebody new, you know, are we always great about trying to

think the next step with them or include them? Probably not, because we've got things with family

and friends and things that we're already locked into. And it's not like we're, I guess, selfish

in that way. But sometimes it's just like, okay I guess selfish in that way but sometimes it's just like okay

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