Welcome to the awesome marriage podcast. I'm your co-host, Christina Dodson. This is an Ask

Dr. Kim segment where people submit their questions for Dr. Kim Kim, and he answers them.

Thanks for listening.

Today on Ask Dr. Kim, the question is, how do I get my spouse to see that we have to make financial

decisions together? This is something we talk about

at Austin, marriage, a ton, that you really have to be partners when it comes to the finances

in your marriage. But it can be a really tricky situation if your spouse isn't feeling that way,

whether your spouse is feeling like, you know, they should be in charge, they should make all

the decisions. You shouldn't have a say, or maybe you shouldn't even know what's going on with the finances.

Unfortunately, we know lots of couples who are in that situation.

So Dr. Kim, how can this person encourage their spouse to see the importance of this?

I think it obviously helps if your spouse is a Christian, a believer, and this is the whole

principle that God wants

oneness and everything with couples. And I think that definitely includes our money situation,

just like it does with everything else that we talk about at loss of marriage. You know, God

does want oneness. He doesn't want anything that's going to divide us. And I think money is,

that's why it's so mentioned so many times in the New Testament more than any other topic is because

God knew we were going to have trouble with money and I think you see problems in marriage we talk

about that a lot finance is always one of the top ones and so when you're not making financial

decisions together there comes a separateness there and and even though some of people may think

well that's not a big deal or I've always made the decisions and that kind of stuff, it just would be better when we work on things together, when we figure out how to do that. And I think we can buy in the world's perspective and we can justify about any behavior we want to. But when you really look at God's perspective, so I would say someone that's got that problem to say, can we talk about it? Can we talk about, can we look at it? You know, obviously a Christian, can we look at it from God's perspective. So I would say someone that's got that problem to say, can we talk about it?

Can we talk about, can we look at them? You know, obviously, a Christian, can we look at it from

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