Argue with Love: How to Have Productive Disagreements with Buster Benson • 106
Mind Love™ • Consciousness, Spirituality, and Science for Awakening
Melissa Monte | Conscious Coach
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 26 November 2019
⏱️ 57 minutes
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Summary
Stress rises around the holidays, which means people get tense. And for a lot of people, Thanksgiving might be the first time they’ve seen their families since easter, or maybe even since the year before. So there’s a lot of calibration that goes on.⠀
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Topics like politics and religion and money are all taboo subjects. But discussions about progress shouldn’t be off-limits. ⠀
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But how do we argue while coming together instead of falling apart?⠀
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Our guest is Buster Benson. As the mastermind behind top-performing teams at Amazon, Twitter, and Slack, Buster basically mastered hard conversations in stressful environments. His article cognitive bias went so viral, viral he got a book deal. ⠀
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We’ll discuss the psychology of those awkward, unproductive conversations and how to avoid it.⠀
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Today we will learn:
- How cognitive bias affects everyone
- How to stay confident when you’re put on the spot
- How to diffuse tense moments with a few strategic questions
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| 0:30.3 | Welcome to Mind Love, episode 106. |
| 0:32.8 | Today's episode is all about how to argue with love and have productive disagreements. |
| 0:37.6 | Arguments aren't about specific statements, they're about worldviews, |
| 0:41.6 | and worldviews last a long time in people. You can get someone to say that they are wrong, but you can't get them to really change their mind. Therefore, you know, it's going to continue to pop up a lot of the early questions that sort of caused conflict in America have |
| 0:54.8 | continued to pop up over and over again that racism is over actually it turns that it's not |
| 0:58.7 | you know we think that you know sexism is over turns out it's not there's just more and more of the same problem coming back again. So we should just get seated and sort of expect it to return and sort of think about how we maintain our society and our relationships in the context where we're always going to have differences |
| 1:14.4 | we're always going to be seeing things from different perspectives. |
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| 1:27.0 | It's time to give your mind a little love with your host, |
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