Are You Sleeping with a Narcissist? 13 Red Flags You Can’t Afford to Miss | Dr. Becky Spelman PT 1 (Fan Fav)

Women of Impact

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Society & Culture, Relationships, Education

4.8 • 701 Ratings

🗓️ 3 November 2025

⏱️ 56 minutes

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This is a fan fav episode. I’ve got another incredible 2 part episode of Women of Impact, where we're taking a deep dive into a topic that's plagued too many women with confusion and pain - dealing with narcissistic partners. Psychologist and mental health advocate, Dr. Becky Spelman joins me to spin a new twist on narcissistic behaviors that trip women up in the bedroom. We’re talking about the complex dynamics of sleeping with a narcissist - an experience that can destroy your confidence, your sanity, and your self-love. Dr. Spelman exposes 13 tell-tale signs that you're sharing your bed with a narcissist. She also discusses why transitioning from toxic relationships to healthy ones can feel surprisingly challenging, even boring. Because I want to flood you with practical information you can actually use to change your life, we’re unpacking the goods and exposing new insights and views to help you escape narcissistic abuse and narcissistic romance in the bedroom. *Why making you climax one minute and ignoring you the next is a power play they love *How narcissists gaslight you and totally bullsh*t themselves at the same time *The horrendous experience of being ghosted and devalued and why the “too good to be true” first dates are a major red flag. *How being dominated and submissive in the bedroom can go from fun and kinky to toxic and tragic fast! Original air date: 9-20-2023 Follow Dr. Becky Spelman: Website: ⁠https://www.drbecky.co.uk/⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@PrivateTherapyClinic⁠ Twitter: ⁠https://twitter.com/drbeckyspelman⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyspelman/⁠ Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/DrBeckySpelman⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	Ladies, ladies, ladies, I've got another freaking awesome episode in store for you today.
0:06.2	We're looking at narcissists from a slightly different angle and talking about sleeping with the enemy.
0:12.9	Okay, if you're married or dating a narcissist, maybe they're not a full-fledged enemy, but it's not a stretch to say that they are the enemy to your confidence, to your sanity,
0:22.7	and to your ability to actually love yourself and thrive. So my guest today, Dr. Becky Spellman,
0:28.7	joins me to break down 13 signs that you've been sleeping with a narcissist for sure. And if you've
0:35.8	been a victim to multiple toxic relationships, she explains why transitioning to healthy relationships is a challenge and can feel super boring. But Dr. Spelman is a psychologist and mental health advocate with some spicy insight to sex with narcissists. And in this two-partpart conversation we dive in to why making you climax
0:55.7	and scream their name one minute gets so confusing when they totally shut down and neglect
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1:28.3	You're not really that important to them at all when it comes to sex,
1:31.3	apart from your, you're an achievement.
1:33.3	And that can be very confusing for people because they think,
1:35.3	oh my God, I've just met the most charming person,
1:38.3	and then they switch, and that's where things get quite dangerous.
1:47.7	Today what I want to do is break down your 13 signs that can help people identify that, yes, you are sleeping with a narcissist. So let's start with
1:53.5	number one. They see sex as gaining power. Narcists have to have control. And this is to do with their ego. They're very fragile
2:03.6	sense of self. They're very low self-esteem. They feel more comfortable being in control.
2:07.9	And they didn't feel this way when they were being brought up. They have a lot of trauma.
2:12.3	So actually control is very important for them because that's where they feel safe.
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