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In 1819, they started saying, I want to get married. Are you serious? Do you know the qualities that are required for a person to qualify to be a spouse?

For a person to qualify to be a husband or a wife?

There are qualities that are needed. And Subhanallah, many people, because they are sexually active and because maybe they are feeling like, you know, they are ready to be a father, somehow.

Or they want to be a mother or they just want to be sexually active. They want to get married. That is not a qualification for you to be material worth being a spouse. Remember this.

So number one, do you know how to interact with people? Do you know how to speak to people? Have you learned how to talk to others? Do you know how to communicate?

If you don't have communication skills, you cannot succeed in a marriage. You are not yet ready to get married.

You might think, I have been dating, I have been doing this, I have been doing this. It is very different. You need to know how to communicate.

Number one, you need to know how to talk, how to come across. You need to know how to word things. You need to know when you want something.

You don't just blurt it out as though you are addressing someone who is of no value. The most valuable person in your life.

The person in your family who has high value, your own spouse, you will be addressing. So you have to know how to speak.

And I think many men don't actually bother. They don't even care. And a lot of women as well. They don't care how it comes out. They say it as it is because that is their spouse. That is the husband. That is the wife. Say it as you want.

That is not how it should be. It is supposed to be said in a way that is very attractive. It makes one feel the love, feel the kindness, feel the care within the statement.

So you know how to talk to someone. Then number two, you need to be very, very patient. Patience is the cornerstone. Patience is a quality that is required for you to be qualified as a person ready to get married.

If you don't have patience, I am sorry, you are not yet ready. So it doesn't mean that just because you are sexually able, you can now get married. No. If you don't have patience, you don't know how to talk to people.

I think you need to hold on. You need to do courses on this. Be very patient. There will be statements that are said. There will be things. There will be problems. There will be issues. How do you address them?

You know they say, be responsible. And I heard one of the scholars say recently that responsible is such a good term when they say the men are responsible. They should be able to respond.

Whenever things go bad, you can respond properly. So you respond in an able fashion. Hence responsible.

Obviously being responsible is far broader than that. But it is definitely within the meaning of it to say when something goes wrong, you need to be able to respond in a proper way.

So if you don't have patience, you end up divorcing people. You end up not realizing that the problems can be resolved. The matters can be resolved.

You need to learn to be slightly selfless. Don't be selfish. If you are selfish, you are not going to get along even with the best of the globe. You won't get along because you are selfish.

So like I say, it doesn't mean that now I am a 2021-22. I need to get married 25. Whatever you are, 26. No. Did you develop your qualities? Do you know that, for example, it doesn't mean you can afford a car.

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