A lot of my motivation was I wanted to not be where I was.

So a lot of the things that I did, I had convinced myself that if I am the best at everything I do,

I can change my situation.

I can have something bigger.

I can have more.

I can do more things.

Yeah.

And he doesn't have that.

A couple years ago, one of my kids was playing a lot of baseball and started the season and came back and said to me,

a couple kids in my team have gotten really good over the summer. I think I'm going to be moving down in the batting order. I panicked. If this was me at that age, what I would have said to my parents is something very different. Oh my goodness, I'm not good at baseball anymore. I need to practice. I need to go to the gym. I even need like a lesson or I need to spend time with me,

I would have been livid. And in this moment, so much flashed in front of me. It also made me think about academic moments, thinking my kid could do better, do more with their talents.

And what is my role if they're not pushing themselves or maybe

is my kid not pushing themselves because I have always pushed them and they kind of have

lost that intrinsic motivation? What is my role around my kid's potential? My leak is here

again and we're going to have another episode of Is It True? And what

we're going to unpack today is this idea. If I don't push my kid, my kid is going to waste

their potential. Is it true? I'm Dr. Becky and this is good inside. I'm so glad you're here.

All right, My League. Have you, have you had that thought? If I don't push my kid, my kid is going to waste their

potential. Absolutely. I have, I'm in the middle of a parent situation where my kid does very well

in school. And every week the work comes home

and I'm watching one subject kind of just go down further. And I'm just, what is my role here?

I feel like we've tried. I've tried everything. I've talked to him. I've, we need the highlighters.

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