Welcome to the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

My name is Lisa A. Romano.

I am a life coach, best-selling author, YouTube vlogger, meditation teacher, an expert in the field of codependency and narcissistic abuse.

I am a believer in the power of an organized mind.

My aim is to help people learn what it means to live above the veil of consciousness, rather

than living a reactive life.

May your heart feel blessed, your mind feel expanded, and your spirit find hope, as you

spend time with me here at the Breakdown to Breakthrough podcast.

So for those of us who are on the path to emotional recovery, those of us who are either

raised by alcoholic parents or narcissistic parents, we know the pain of abandonment trauma.

And quite often those of us who come from those types of backgrounds develop codependency as a way to cope.

Co-dependency becomes a survival strategy.

When our childhoods are abrasive, when we feel rejected, when we feel abandoned, when the feelings and the experiences of the little ones go ignored, when

parents' problems always trump the problems of the children.

That's not the way it's supposed to be, dear ones.

The problems of the children are supposed to be recognized.

They're supposed to be validated, and they're supposed to be dealt with.

But when you come from a dysfunctional

or a toxic home, that doesn't happen. And so as the defense strategy, as a survival strategy,

many of us from homes like that develop codependency. We end up fawning. We end up people pleasing.

We end up subjectating our needs. We don't know how we feel. No one asks us how we felt.

And so we grow up with this subconscious programming and we are unconscious to it. We don't know

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