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Pulling The Thread with Elise Loehnen

Are You Mad at Me? (Meg Josephson)

Pulling The Thread with Elise Loehnen

Lemonada Media

Education, Self-improvement

4.81.2K Ratings

🗓️ 26 March 2026

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

Meg Josephson is a psychotherapist and the author of the instant New York Times–bestseller, Are You Mad At Me? In her own life and in her work with clients, she’s come to focus on why many of us have an overactive fawn response. (You’re likely familiar with the other classic responses: fight, flight, freeze, and perhaps faint.) The fawn response can look different depending on the person but it is often related to a desire to feel safe, to be liked, to secure approval, and to please others. In this conversation, Josephson shares the five fawn-related archetypes, or behavioral patterns, that she’s identified. (My guess is that at least one will resonate with you.) Josephson explains why these patterns and responses make sense and why they can be protective—and also what to do if their overuse has become a strain on your life and relationships.   For the show notes, head to my Substack. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0

I've written and talked about this before, but I really love when I get to meet pulling the thread listeners out in the world.

0:06.0

This never gives me an identity crisis. Instead, I feel so grateful for how wonderful, cool, wise, smart, and curious you all are. It's wild. So if you're listening right now, I feel I can safely assume that you're deeply curious and that you have some big questions about our world, our culture, and what part we're meant to play in it all. If you also happen to be

0:25.8

neurodivergent, I wanted to tell you about another podcast called Hyperfocus with Ray Jacobson.

0:32.1

It gets at the kind of big questions we're interested in, but from an ADHD lens. Ray is a mental health journalist who

0:39.4

was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 21. On her podcast, she speaks with scientists, doctors,

0:45.5

researchers, and other experts. In every episode, Ray and her guest dive into studies, headlines,

0:50.5

and questions around neurodivergence, mental health, and well-being. Most recently,

0:55.0

it was really interesting to learn from Ray about why there's no gold standard for adult ADHD

1:00.0

tests, but she has covered so many fascinating and critical topics, including the potential links

1:05.7

between ADHD and chronic pain, the future of special education in our country, the language we use in this

1:12.1

space, advice from a financial therapist, support for parents, and more. To listen to Hyperfocus

1:17.7

with Ray Jacobson, search for Hyperfocus with Ray Jacobson in your podcast app. That's Hyperfocus

1:24.0

with Ray Jacobson. Hi, I'm Dr. Nicola Perra. At some point in life, many of us notice that our reactions don't always match who we want to be. We shut down, give too much, or pull away even when it cost us. These habits don't come from nowhere. They began early as your nervous system learned how to keep you safe. And over time, they can leave you feeling unsure of who you are or living a life that doesn't

1:44.6

feel fully like yours. In my new book, Reparenting the Inner Child, I share practical tools to

1:49.3

help you understand these patterns and give you the roadmap on how to create lasting change.

1:53.4

Reparenting the Inner Child is available wherever you get your books.

1:57.1

Hi, it's Elise Lunan, host of Pulling the Thread. Today I'm talking to psychotherapist Meg

2:02.5

Josephson about the fond response. Hi, it's Elise Lunan, host of Pulling the Thread.

2:19.6

On this show, we pull apart the web in which we all live to understand who we are and why we're here.

2:25.9

My hope is that these conversations spark moments of resonance and plant tiny seeds of awareness

2:31.0

so that we might all collectively learn and grow.

2:36.5

Here is today's guest, psychotherapist Meg Josephson, describing one component of the fawn

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