Are You Living Your Enneagram… or Rewriting It? The Story That Kept You Safe with Katie Gustafson (The Velvet)
Velvet's Edge with Kelly Henderson
iHeartPodcasts
4.5 • 927 Ratings
🗓️ 22 April 2026
⏱️ 40 minutes
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Summary
Kelly sits down with psychotherapist and Enneagram specialist Katie Gustafson for a conversation that challenges the way we think about personality, identity, and growth.
Instead of asking “who am I, really?”—this episode explores a different question: what story did you learn to tell to stay safe… and are you still living inside it?
They walk through the nine Enneagram types not as fixed identities, but as early survival stories we wrote in childhood—patterns shaped by our environments, needs, and experiences. From the achiever who equates worth with success to the peacemaker who keeps the peace at the cost of their own voice, these stories may feel familiar—but they’re not final.
The conversation moves into what it actually looks like when those patterns stop working, how those moments show up in the body, and why that tension might be less of a breakdown and more of an invitation to change.
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| 0:00.0 | This is an IHeart podcast. |
| 0:02.6 | Guaranteed human. |
| 0:15.5 | Katie Gus Gustafson. |
| 0:17.9 | Good grief. |
| 0:18.7 | I've tried three times. |
| 0:19.7 | So we're just going to roll with the one with that one. |
| 0:21.9 | But you've been on the podcast multiple times. We have psychotherapist and enneagram specialist here with us today. |
| 0:28.3 | Welcome back, Katie. Thanks, Kelly. So fun. I'm so excited about this topic. You always come with |
| 0:35.0 | this different flavor of the ideagram and we've dissected it |
| 0:38.2 | in multiple different ways. We are both fours and so we have this like cadence when talking about an |
| 0:44.1 | enneagram. We love to talk about this. I know. I know. We get on a roll too. We do. But this topic is |
| 0:50.6 | something that's really interesting to me because I've always wondered is our enneagram number like nature versus nurture kind of thing? |
| 0:58.1 | Are we born this way? |
| 0:59.8 | Did we learn how to be this way? |
| 1:01.8 | Is it a survival skill? |
| 1:03.8 | And I thought what you brought topic wise kind of tied into answering that in a whole different way. |
| 1:10.1 | Because we're talking today about the |
| 1:12.8 | eneogram as it relates to authenticity and can you speak a little bit to what you've typically |
| 1:19.1 | heard about the eneogram and authenticity yes i love this idea that the root word of authenticity is author. |
| 1:29.4 | And the enneagram, if it's anything, is a map of our survival strategies. |
| 1:39.6 | I love this idea that our personality or enneagram type style, whatever you want to call it, |
| 1:45.0 | is like our survival strategy for planet Earth. And if you look at the word personality, |
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