There have been many times in my life where I've found myself feeling really unhappy

and not knowing what the issue was, but yet knowing that there was an issue. And then a few months later, I would

discover what the thing was. And in many times in my life I've realized that in those moments I was feeling unhappy

because I was not living life for me. I was living life for everyone else and everything else but me.

I wasn't listening to my own opinions. I wasn't making decisions for me.

Everything I was doing was a product of someone else's ideas,

someone else's schedule, et cetera.

You know?

And what's really interesting about falling into a phase of not living life for you is that

you don't always notice it.

It happens slowly and it's not obvious.

It's kind of hard to spot and that's why almost every time I've experienced it I've not realized in the moment that it was happening.

I've pretty much only ever been able to spot it months later,

which is interesting, because it's something I'm aware of but yet I can fall into it and not even

recognize it when it's happening.

Because it can come in so many shapes and sizes. It can come in many different forms.

You know, it's not always the same twice,

but it has the same psychological impact and the same terrible feeling.

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