Welcome to let it be easy with Susie Moore.

Are you out of your integrity and you don't even realize it or even worse believe it to be virtuous?

Now, oh my, how much, how lucky, so many feelings here to express how blessed I feel that we are to have

Martha Beck on the podcast speaking about her latest book The Way of Integrity.

But I wanted to do this solo episode also to highlight a part of the book that could be really,

really useful when it comes to understanding what parts of your life

may be out of integrity that you just simply hadn't considered before. Now Martha Beck calls this detecting

your hustle and your hustle she explains is simply the opposite of your natural joy.

It's something that you have to work at. It's something

often that involves playing up to people, doing things that we don't want to do. And we really

believe it to be because if we know we're good people or we're doing the right thing

we're following the right next steps. And here are some questions that I want to

share with you that you could think about today that may highlight areas of your life that could use a little bit more freedom.

That could maybe use a little bit more truth when it comes to actually what's right for you in your own life experience.

Here are the questions.

Do you ever hang out with people you don't truly enjoy? Who are they? Do you consistently

make yourself do anything or many things you don't really want to do. Make a list. Are there things you do solely out of fear that

not doing them will upset someone or lower your value in someone else's eyes? What are they? Are there any times in your daily

life where you're consistently pretending to be happier or more interested than you really are.

And in what areas, relationships, job activities or places, do you tend to do this?

Do you ever say things that you know are true or things that you don't really truly mean?

What are they? I really enjoyed answering these questions, thinking about maybe people in my life that I don't love spending time with, the things I do that I don't want to do things that I do because I worry that if I don't do them I might upset someone or someone might not feel special. People who I act naturally happy around or agree with to keep the peace.

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