Are They a Fuckboy or Just Not That Into You?
Seeing Other People
Ilana Dunn
4.5 • 608 Ratings
🗓️ 7 April 2026
⏱️ 54 minutes
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Summary
In this episode, I’m joined by Andie P, creator of Ask a Fuckboy, to break down mixed signals, emotional unavailability, and the behaviors that leave you confused in modern dating. We talk about the difference between a fuckboy and someone who’s just not that into you, translating common “fuckboy” texts, why even smart people fall for mixed signals, when to communicate versus walk away, how technology has made modern dating more confusing, and whether situationships can actually turn into relationships — so you can stop guessing and start choosing what you actually want.
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| 0:00.0 | Antipova, welcome to seeing other people. |
| 0:05.4 | Thank you for having me. |
| 0:06.6 | I am particularly excited because this is going to be really fun. |
| 0:10.7 | Yeah. |
| 0:11.3 | I feel like we couldn't have a conversation about what you do and who you are without it being really fun. |
| 0:17.7 | There are curse words involved. |
| 0:19.3 | There will be many a curse word had today. |
| 0:21.6 | If you don't like curses. Next. Yeah, next. Next. How the fuck did you start and why the |
| 0:29.7 | fuck did you start? Ask a fuck boy. Yes, that was the appropriate amount of curse words in that question. |
| 0:35.3 | My, I was dating. I was in the throes of dating. And this guy that I thought was really into me, had said he was into me, he ghosted me out of the blue. And I was talking to my best friend about it in our kitchen. We lived together. And I was like, I wish I had a panel of fuck boys to consult about this. Like, I wish I could present all |
| 0:54.3 | the texts through a PowerPoint and then the panel could just tell me what's going on. And my friend is a comedian. She's been doing comedy for years. And she said, that would make a great that would make a great comedy show. And so we started it and we did one. We called it Ask a Fuck boy, it sold out. We just kept doing it. And now we're, I don't know, 50 shows in and they've all sold out. |
| 1:13.7 | I mean, it sold out. We just kept doing it. And now we're, I don't know, 50 shows in and they've all sold out. |
| 1:13.9 | I mean, that is genius. |
| 1:15.3 | It's been a lot of fun. This is one of those things where it's like every so often, you know, and you'll have a thought, and you're like, wow, why didn't I think to invent that? Yeah. Oh, I wish I could just like think of the next like thing. |
| 1:26.3 | Like, I don't know. |
| 1:28.5 | Some type of like like, screwdriver, like some type of tape. Yeah. Thank you. That's a better example. Like, this is one of those things where it's like, how did it not exist? And how many people thought of this thing that they needed, but didn't do it? And we're just like, oh, well, it doesn't exist. |
| 1:45.6 | And you made it. It seems to really resonate because a lot of women need, and men, a lot of people |
| 1:49.6 | need dating advice from people who are, you know, as fucked up as the people are dating. And |
| 1:55.7 | that's kind of what we went into it seeking. Everyone is a comedian, to be clear, I guess, but |
| 2:00.7 | but they're all sort |
| 2:02.2 | of in the pretense of being a fuck boy. And you mentioned that your friend was a comedian. |
| 2:06.9 | Yeah. Were you doing any in front of people presenting, making people giggle at the time? |
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