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Seeing Other People

Are Guys Overthinking Everything, Too?

Seeing Other People

Ilana Dunn

Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Social Sciences, Science

4.5608 Ratings

🗓️ 29 February 2024

⏱️ 44 minutes

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Summary

I'm joined by Jacob, a 28 year old in NYC who opens up about going from a tumultuous, long distance, on again off again relationship to now being one year into a healthy relationship with someone he met on Hinge. We hear what his frustrations were when navigating the apps for the first time, what stood out about his now-girlfriend's profile, and how they stayed in touch when she went away for a few weeks after their first date. He shares how guys vs girls in his life approach dating when it comes to texting and overthinking. Finally, Jacob and I answer listener questions about exclusivity, photos of exes on Instagram, and more.

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Transcript

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0:00.0

This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation.

0:04.8

Hey guys, it's Alana and you're listening to Seeing Other People Unfiltered.

0:09.8

It's Thursday, so that means real-life daters are coming on to share their real, sometimes shocking, and always unfiltered experiences.

0:17.7

Think you're alone out there?

0:18.9

Think you're the only one whose ex hooked up with your mom or whose last date ended up

0:22.9

being a catfish?

0:23.9

Think again.

0:25.4

My name is Jacob.

0:26.6

I'm 28.

0:27.6

And just here to talk about all things dating in New York.

0:32.2

Happy to share my experience.

0:34.9

And I don't know, whatever you're feeling.

0:37.4

I'm really excited to see where this conversation goes. So a little context for everyone. Jacob and I have a mutual friend, and I was talking to that friend about the episodes. And I was like, yeah, like, if you, I feel like you might have friends who would want to come on. And I was thinking initially, like, I know a lot of her, like, girlfriends. And that's kind of where my head was at. And she was like, oh, I know the perfect guy, my friend Jacob. Like, he would be so perfect for this. I'm going to text him. I'm like, okay, I know absolutely nothing about Jacob, but I trust you, sure. So here we are. And I'm very excited to have you. Well, thank you for having me. Love Erica.

1:14.2

Yeah, I'm sure you met David before.

1:18.2

David's one of my best friends from college. We've definitely, you know, have our fair share of dating stories.

1:25.9

Oh, I'm sure. Unlike Erica, who downloads a dating app goes on one date,

1:30.3

and that's it. That's so funny. And also, I think I, I'm sure she told you about their first date,

1:36.0

but wasn't it at like a TED theme bar? It was like a name theme bar. That's like so David and

1:43.7

Erica, it was just like the perfect first date

1:46.3

for them. It was game over after that. Oh, for sure. Well, I'm really excited to have you. Let's start

1:53.0

kind of by setting the stage with what's going on for you right now in your dating life.

1:58.8

Luckily, I met someone on Hinge about a year ago.

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