I would argue that I'm showing up like really authentically to my online audience in that

I post erratically.

I'm bad at communicating.

I won't tell like really important news that I should have shared with them.

And that is honestly how I show up in most of my friendships.

Hey, y'all, I'm Sam Sanders.

Thank you so much for listening to my show with KCRW.

That's comedian Aparna Nancherla.

I've admired her comedy for years.

Even though it always felt like we moved through the world very differently.

A lot of Aparna's work is about being shy and introverted.

And I am an extroverts, extrovert.

I love to be perceived, and I will talk to anybody, especially strangers.

I think under the right circumstances, I'd even have a conversation with a brick wall.

Nevertheless, Aparna's jokes and her general take on life always makes me laugh and think.

I am a, you know, a pretty quiet person and sometimes when you're quiet people are like,

well, that's okay, you don't say a lot, but you're a great listener.

You know, you're a really good listener.

That's the thing.

I'm not. that's the thing.

I'm not.

Sometimes I'm not talking and I'm not listening.

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