Welcome to About Progress, I'm Monica Packer, a regular mom and recovering perfectionist

who uncovered the truest model to dramatic, belasting personal growth.

Its progress made practical. Join us to leave the extremes behind

and instead learn how to do something to grow in ways that stick.

I've been a coach for five years and one of the biggest takeaways that all my coaching

clients have expressed that they got from coaching was the power of knowing what their values

were and aligning their lives to their values. If you want help identifying yours,

I've got an incredible free resource for you. It's called the ultimate values exercise.

You can get it at aboutprogress.com slash values.

I think hindsight bias really is the best teacher and it's also really good at showing you how much

you've changed. Over time, it's really difficult to see it in the moment and if you are in the

middle of that friend, I'm raising my hand because I am too in some way as we all are.

But there was one contrast for me that special hindsight bias moment that really helped me see

how much I had indeed changed early on in this experiment of choosing progress over perfection.

It actually came down to the difference I felt internally between my third child being born

and my fourth child. The natural version of this is after my third child that's really when my

life honestly felt like it was falling apart. I was not able to show up the ways that I wanted

and needed to for my responsibilities. I was a different person. I also didn't know who I was

to top it off. I felt a lot of times despair, stuck, lost, resentful, angry, all of these things

aren't really me. This is where I insert the story. Most of you should know but very well by now

and that's like five months after I had this baby six months before I turned 30. When I began

this grand experiment, if you're going out what will life look like if I were to make it about

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