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This is Episode 331, how to be a lazy genius and amplify what matters with Kendra Adachi.

You know Monica, I am not a perfectionist, I am way too lazy to be one.

This is something that I have heard from women for years.

And every single time they had said something to the effect of, I am too lazy to be a perfectionist.

We break down why they are quote-unquote lazy and all comes back to them looking at life in all or nothing ways.

And their long history of trying to do all the things with repeated swings back to nothing

and that slow undoing of identity, one where they begin to see themselves more as a non-starter,

a procrastinator, a non-finisher and more, until they fully adopt the identity of being lazy.

But in reality, these women who say this to me are absolutely 100% perfectionist.

And when they realize that, I wish you could see the visible relief flood the women's faces.

The shame they've aligned themselves with for years melts away in just one moment

and they can see that they've given themselves way too much credit for too long, the bad kind of credit.

So what's next? What do they do? What's they realize? Oh, I'm a perfectionist.

I'm not lazy, I'm a perfectionist. The fear of failure, of underachieving, of not doing well enough

is what is keeping me from trying. It's what is making me realize those things and become those things.

Well, what's next is terrifying for all kinds of perfectionists, whether you're the under or overachieving kind

because what's next is a bold departure from black and white and stepping into the messy middle.

With habits, which is our theme for this month, it is especially hard to get outside the all or nothing mindset and parameters we see all around us.

It's easier to fall for doing all the intricate multi-step habits all the time, or none at all.

Have you ever connected with someone in a way that it almost felt creepy? How much your life experiences, your learnings and your uncoverings mirrored each other?

Well, that's what Kendra Adachi is for me. Kendra is a podcaster, writer and leader of all things, lazy genius.

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