Yeah, you know what? I think it is that because I'm familiar with my singleness, it's comfortable and familiar and it's the safest place for me to stay.

Are you ready to talk to me?

My name is Deborah Felida and I'm a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and author.

Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the privilege of helping millions of people get healthy mentally,

emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. The purpose of this podcast is to have on-air,

authentic, counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are really doing and give

my guests and callers an opportunity to talk to me as a licensed professional

counselor. Each of these episodes is meant to show you that we are all on the journey of healing,

mentally, emotionally, spiritually and relationally, together. None of us are immune to the

challenges and struggles of life, but we don't have to walk this path alone.

I'm so proud and honored to be having these conversations with men and women who are courageously paving the way for open and honest conversations about their personal journey of healing.

So if you're ready, let's talk.

Today on the podcast, I have Katie from Ottawa, Canada, joining us. Katie, it's good to have you.

Yes, thank you for having me. So what is it that you want to talk to me about today?

Okay, so my for having me. So what is it that you want to talk to me about today? Okay, so my question is about finding a healthy balance between telling our feelings where to go

versus acknowledging and validating our feelings and not burying them.

I know for myself, I often have this tug of war between my emotional thoughts

and my rational thinking. And I was just wanting your help in navigating those opposing

perspectives in a healthy way. Yeah, that's a really good question because you can hear two different stories, right?

On one hand, we talk about how important feelings are and how they're a signal and the revealing of certain things.

On the other hand, you've heard me say that feelings can't always be trusted in the sense that feelings are real,

but they're not always telling us the truth.

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