Hey everybody. Thanks for tuning into my podcast again. Today I'm going to be talking about

what if thoughts. So these are the anxious thoughts that you have about the future. And these can be

really hard to deal with because they seem so logical. Like, of course you would worry about

the negative possibilities of something or the negative outcomes. And so I'm going to give you a few

clear strategies on how to deal with those thoughts because

they can be really destructive and destroy your peace and happiness in the present moment.

The first thing you need to understand is that on one hand, you know that it's not good to think

those thoughts in the sense that it is painful and it causes you stress

and anxiety and you're like of course I don't want to think those thoughts um but on the other hand

the reason why you're thinking those thoughts is because a part of your brain believes that it's useful

your brain only does things that it believes is useful or things that it does

not on purpose because it's broken or damaged in some way, but that's probably not your case.

So your brain is producing these thoughts because it thinks that it's useful and that it's beneficial to you in some way.

The first thing that you can try to do to teach your brain that you don't need to have these

thoughts or at least not to the extent that you do is to really simply just write down a pros

and cons list of thinking that specific thought. So let's say,

for example, you're worried about your boyfriend breaking up with you. And that's just something that,

like, you constantly have this fear of abandonment and you can't get rid of the thought,

even though you know, like, it makes no sense to think that

and why can't you just enjoy the fact that he hasn't broken up with you part of your brain thinks

it's useful or protective to think that thought so the pros of thinking oh my gosh my boyfriend

might break up with me is that you can maybe prepare for it. So you

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