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Hey everybody, it's Mariel.

Have you ever gotten somebody the perfect gift?

Rachel Wilkerson Miller definitely has.

If you live in New York and you've been to restaurants, every restaurant has to have a choking

poster on their wall that explains like how to do the Heimlic on somebody if they're joking.

And a lot of restaurants will commission ones that are tongue in cheek or specific to them.

And it's something that my girlfriend and I had talked about when we first sort of dating,

like she would point them out in different places we'd go and she pointed out a specific

one that she really liked.

It was blue and white and had a kind of vacation theme.

Like people are having dinner on a tropical island underneath these palm trees while this dude in formal attire

is getting the Heimlich and a full hamburger comes flying out of his mouth.

So Rachel found the poster online, bought it, and gave it to her girlfriend as a housewarming gift when they moved in together years later.

And just like a few, like a couple months ago, she was just like, I love that so much.

That was the best gift I have ever received. It's so special

makes me so happy every time I look at it and like you can't pull that off very

often like that was a deep cut that I got lucky in terms of finding and then you

know again sat on it for two years until the perfect moment but like to me that was I feel very proud of that one

Rachel by the way isn't just a great gift giver she's also the editor-in-chief of self-magazine and she says

gifts can help us show people we care about them and

that we know them because it's a way of communicating not just I care about you but

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