Am I The Asshole? My Partner Doesn’t Like Oral Sex

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

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🗓️ 3 November 2023

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Have you ever wondered if you’re the asshole in your sex life and relationships? Today, Producer Erica and I are letting you know if you’re approaching asshole territory - and not the good kind. One listener hooked up with someone else while they were on a break, and now her partner says she can’t be trusted. Who’s the asshole here? Another listener wants to spice it up in the bedroom, but her husband with a kinky past sees her as a “delicate little angel.” Sounds like a case of the classic Madonna-Whore complex. What about when your partner won’t perform oral sex? Are you the asshole for craving it? We get into all this and more. In today’s episode, you’ll learn: The importance of identifying your sexual fantasies How to work through ultimatums in relationships Why your sex life should evolve over time See the full show notes at sexwithemily.com. Send us your AITA questions for the chance to have yours featured on the show at sexwithemily.com/aita. Show Notes: Ages & Stages In Your Sex Life Soraya Beads from LELO (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off sitewide) Flavored Lubes Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides SHOP WITH EMILY! (free shipping on orders over $69) The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure Want more? Sex With Emily: Home Let’s get social: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | TikTok Let’s text: Sign Up Here Want me to slide into your inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	You absolutely should be able to explore your fantasies and expand beyond vanilla sex and
0:08.6	I want that for you and you will not last in a relationship where you are just lying there doing the same thing over and over again.
0:15.5	And so I recommend you have a conversation with him that is more about your sex life together.
0:20.8	The sex life you're having while it's very satisfying and pleasurable, in many
0:25.1	ways, it's not enough for you because for sex to be sustainable, it actually has to always
0:32.4	evolve and change.
0:33.3	You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your
0:40.2	pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. I'm so happy you all
0:44.8	love the segment as much as I do because it's truly so much fun. We're back with
0:49.2	another am I the asshole episode and you've all been submitting great scenarios to our am I the asshole forum which is in the show notes
0:56.7	So today producer Eric and I are telling people if they're assholes or not for hooking up with other people while at a break, wanting
1:05.8	your partner to be more kinky when they've been kinkier with previous partners, wanting
1:09.8	your partner to perform oral sex, and wanting their partner to put more effort into
1:13.5	spicing up their sex life. If you want to know if you're the asshole, submit
1:17.4	your questions to sex with Emily.com slash AITA. Please rate and review sex with Emily wherever you listen to the show, my new article, Ages
1:26.8	and Stages in Your Sex Life is up on Sex with Emily.com.
1:30.2	All right, everyone, enjoyed this episode. This episode. This is from Sophia and she's 25.
1:47.0	Am I the asshole for hooking up with someone else while we were on a break?
1:49.7	Hey Dr. Emily, my partner, we'll call him Dave, and I've been together nine years.
1:53.6	But about a year ago, we broke up for a short amount of time.
1:56.5	We were still living together during the time, and we're both on Tinder looking for
1:59.9	fun.
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