Every time she opens your phone and sees pornography, it's almost like you're beating her the death physically.

You may not have never laid her hand on her, but if you equal the pain and hurt on her heart, those tears that she's crying at night, when she's quiet, that's when she's

yelling the most. Don't learn the heart way. That's a big reason why I wanted to come on here

today to tell you guys, I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy. Are you ready to talk to me?

My name is Deborah Felata and I'm a licensed professional counselor, national speaker, and author.

Through my blog, books, and podcast, I have the privilege of helping millions of people get healthy mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and relationally. The purpose of this

podcast is to have on-air, authentic, counseling-style sessions where we talk about how people are

really doing and give my guests and callers an opportunity to talk to me as a licensed

professional counselor. Each of these episodes is meant to show

you that we are all on the journey of healing, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and

relationally, together. None of us are immune to the challenges and struggles of life,

but we don't have to walk this path alone. I'm so proud and

honored to be having these conversations with men and women who are courageously paving the way

for open and honest conversations about their personal journey of healing. So if you're ready,

let's talk. Today on the podcast, I'm excited to have Gerad from Georgia

joining us. Gerad, it's good to see you again. Good to see you too, Deborah. And I say again,

because I have seen your face on some of our singles seminars this past year.

Yes, ma'am, a couple of them.

Yeah, so it's good to see a familiar face.

So tell me, Gerard, what is it that you have on your mind that you want to talk to me about?

I wanted to know, how do you know that you're fully over a divorce or separation? I guess, you know,

when the thoughts come of your old relationship, does that mean you're not over it? When you hear

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