"All I Wanted Was To Be Wanted"

Seeing Other People

Ilana Dunn

Relationships, Society & Culture, Sexuality, Health & Fitness, Mental Health, Social Sciences, Science

4.5 • 608 Ratings

🗓️ 13 June 2024

⏱️ 60 minutes

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Summary

TW: Sexual assault

I'm joined by Rafaella, a 23-year-old who opens up about entering a relationship during a phase of her life where she felt like she wasn't enough for someone to want to be with her. We hear how her insecurities led to unhealthy relationship patterns unfolding, including her being manipulated and emotionally and physically abused. We hear how she lost herself in her relationship, and how leaving the relationship in the emotional state she was in led her down an even darker path until she finally had a wake-up call and took control of her life.

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0:00.0	This podcast is brought to you by Podcast Nation.
0:04.8	Hey guys, it's Alana and you're listening to seeing other people unfiltered.
0:09.9	It's Thursday, so that means real-life daters are coming on to share their real, sometimes shocking, and always unfiltered experiences.
0:17.8	Think you're alone out there?
0:19.0	Think you're the only one whose ex hooked up with your mom
0:21.5	or whose last date ended up being a catfish? Think again. Content warning. This episode may be
0:28.1	triggering to those with sensitivities around sexual assault. Hi, I'm Rafa. I'm 23 years old,
0:34.8	and I go to college in Georgia. Today I am here to talk about how the need of
0:42.9	validation and lack of self-love can lead us to risky paths that sometimes result in life-changing
0:52.6	events and honestly how the most horrible situation is the only
0:58.5	thing that showed me that I needed to do better for myself. It hurts my heart to hear what you just
1:06.9	said. That last line of the most horrible situation is what made you learn that because
1:12.7	it's so unfortunate that we have to go through such trauma and such painful experiences
1:19.4	in order to realize our self-worth should not come from somebody else. And in order to realize
1:26.4	that who we are matters and that we are
1:30.8	enough, but it's also equally unfortunately so relatable. And so I really appreciate you coming
1:38.0	on here to talk about it because I imagine it's one of those things. And I know because I have also
1:42.5	been through a similar experience
1:44.5	that resulted in me feeling this way where we feel so alone when going through it.
1:52.3	Yes, for sure. I think it's something that it's not as talked about. You know, you hear all the,
1:59.6	I guess it's now on TikTok and Instagram,
2:02.4	everything about healing and everything getting so much better and self-love and doing the
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