I was working with somebody who'd gone through some very horrific childhood trauma.

And the thing is, I asked her, you know, as we were continuing the conversation, I asked

her, does some part of you feel like you deserve it?

She goes, yes.

Does some part of you feel guilty for it?

She said, yes.

I said, good.

Then go there.

Everybody else will tell you you didn't deserve it.

You shouldn't feel guilty.

Like people told me you shouldn't feel guilty, you know, and I get it.

You can't control what happens in war, but let's fly where they fly.

But the fact is that darkness exists.

So instead of avoiding it, go into the pancake, go into the darkness.

If you feel bad, go there.

What does it mean about you?

What does it mean about God?

What does it mean about humanity?

What does it mean about life?

And then see what you find in that cave, you know, in that hell.

And the next day she shared with her husband for the first time, she hadn't shared, I think

she'd been married like 20 years, I mean, never shared it with, with him, never shared

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