Ages & Stages Series--The Tween Years :: Charissa Lopez [Ep 380]

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Education, Leisure, Kids & Family, Parenting

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🗓️ 26 September 2022

⏱️ 51 minutes

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Summary

How do you feel when you are in between stages of life? Excited? Nervous? Afraid?

Tweens - those kids in between childhood and adolescence - are capable, growing into their own thoughts and ideas and preferences, but not quite as opinionated as teenagers. In this “in between” there is plenty of room for curiosity and character development if we will stay connected to and interested in our kids.

My guest this week is Charissa Lopez (she’s gotten married since she was last on the show as Charissa Fry), a therapist and parent coach, and she encourages us that healthy attachment can lead to healthy individuation (that process of our kids distinguishing themselves from us). She helps us see that for the entire time we are in relationship with our kids they need comfort and encouragement and connection with us. Though we still have authority over our kids we, as parents, are transitioning out of such a hands-on role in their lives and Charissa helps us think through puberty and friend groups, and our tweens’ spiritual growth.

Connect with Charissa Lopez:

Website: https://charissalopez.com
Special Resources for DMA Listeners from past episodes: https://charissalopez.com/resources/regulation-pack/

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**For resources mentioned below, parents should read the book first. Don’t feel like you have to read every word to your child. Just use the parts that work for your family and skip the rest. Or discuss why some people believe differently than you.*

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0:00.0	Hey y'all, welcome back to the Don't Mom Alone podcast.
0:10.0	I'm your host, Heather McFadian, and this is the place where I get to walk alongside
0:14.8	you and connect you with people and resources.
0:17.8	So you know that you don't mom alone.
0:21.0	And in this episode, number 380, we are moving on in our Agres and Stages series to the
0:27.0	Twin Years.
0:31.0	And to talk about that topic, I've invited my friend, Karissa Lopez, back to the show.
0:35.2	I think sometimes what gets lost in those twin and teen years is the delight.
0:40.6	Man, it matters so much that we just keep delighting in our kids.
0:45.8	Like the name walk in a room, are we lighting up?
0:48.0	Are we welcoming them?
0:49.0	Are we connecting with them?
0:50.8	Because teenagers and tweens can be very like we can feel very rejected by them.
0:56.6	Or we can further giving up a vibe of like, I don't need this.
0:59.5	I don't need you.
1:01.0	But really, they absolutely do.
1:03.7	Last week, we tackled the topic of middle motherhood that in between stage and this week
1:10.0	is another in between stage for our kids tweens, the kids who are in between childhood and
1:16.8	adolescence.
1:18.5	What's great is they are capable of growing into their own thoughts and ideas and preferences,
1:24.5	but not quite as opinionated as teenagers in this in between.
1:29.2	There is plenty of room for curiosity and character development if we stay connected to
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