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Welcome back to Ask For Me and My House, you guys. I'm Lena. And I'm Jordan.

Today we are going to give very practical tips on what you can do with your spouse after you have been in a

argument, disagreement, a tickle, pickle, whatever you want to call it. Ask us how we know. We've had plenty of these. I vividly remember when Jordan, like mentioned this topic

and started like writing down the ideas that we had and like the stuff that we have done over the years. I vividly remember you guys when

Jordan and I first got married. It was probably a week in term, it was like when we came back from our honeymoon. And we had had an argument and I was sitting on the couch at our old house, remember that dark grade dingy couch that we had that the dogs just like completely

completely soiled. I was sitting on that couch and I remember Jordan, I had just gotten into an argument and I felt so conflicted because I did not genuinely know what to do. I knew I wanted to do the right thing. I knew I wanted to fight for a marriage.

And I just had not been given the best example of what to do for conflict resolution. And so I literally googled on my phone what to do after you and your spouse.

Why sage council of the Google.

Not the wisest place yet because then I had to discern and see like, okay, is this worldly advice is this biblical advice. So like all that to say, I have been in these shoes. And so we want this to be very practical, whether you've been married for five minutes or 55 years.

Like I hope that someone is able to leave with this episode and pull something out of it because the enemy is after your marriage.

Okay, whether you realize it or not, whether you think you have like a quote unquote godly marriage or not, he's after it and he wants to destroy it. And so how do marriages get destroyed.

Several ways, but I think a root of a lot of it is not being able to communicate properly and not being able to resolve your issues properly or the conflict that you might have. And so this is like the bread and butter of your marriage right here. And so if you're able to effectively communicate.

If you're able, obviously there's so many great secrets and pieces to the pie of having a great marriage. But I think at the end of the day, like being able to talk and communicate and effectively resolve things can be huge.

And now we're preaching to the choir here because Jordan was like, I was trying to piss you off before we came. So it'd be like, freshen your mind on like you were doing a really good job. You did a good job. So sorry.

Yeah, that's that's essentially the heartbeat of this. We want to encourage you guys because we've obviously we're walking in marriage. We know what it means to have conflict and struggle and fight and yell and scream and all these kinds of things that bring dishonor to our spouse.

But and I think our culture is is like makes a mockery of that. You know, our culture wants us to like talk bad about our spouse to our boyfriends and girlfriends. Like literally or figuratively, you know what I mean. And they want us to completely destroy it. Like Melina said, the devil is after our marriage. He hates that God has brought two people together into one. And he wants to destroy that because he knows that's how God designed for us to be right into.

To to thrive in that into walking the way that God has has outlined for us in scripture. So we're going to give you some encouragement. We're going to give you some practical stuff and we want to walk you through like a step by step, like a process of. Okay. Next time not if but when the next time you get in a fight with your spouse. Try.

Try walking through some of these things and see if it doesn't help your your situation again. This this isn't a step by step. If it were, we'd be millionaires. Like we we can't write a book on how to resolve all and every and all conflict in every scenario. But we do.

We we have seen the fruit of some of these practical things that we've implemented at work in our lives and benefiting us. So we just want to pass those on to you. And yeah. So let's let's jump into it. Honey, what did you bring with you today?

I actually brought something that is for my children, but I find that I grab this more for myself than I do for my kids. This is why wise words or moms and it was written by ginger Hubbard.

I have some of her books. I really like the stuff that she does and promotes not all of it though. If you've read any of her stuff, you know, not everyone's going to agree on 100% of everything.

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