Hi everyone, welcome back to Doing It, the Sex and Relationships podcast where sex has never been so nerdy with me, your host, Hannah Whitten.

This week, I'm joined by the brilliant Kate Osborne, Kate or Ketiosaurus, as she is known online, is a certified sex educator with ADHD, a mental health advocate and full-time content creator.

Her work focuses on funny, honest conversations about ADHD advocacy, disability awareness and advocacy in sex education.

Her area of interest is primarily focused on neurodivergent relationships,

especially in the kink community. Outside of her work as an educator, she is also an avid gamer and

player of dungeons and dragons. I really wanted to get Kate on the podcast as I have been seeing

more and more women get diagnosed with ADHD lately, and I wanted to get

Kate's perspective and tips about managing having ADHD whilst dating and also being kinky.

Kate told me the unexpected story of how she got her diagnosis for ADHD.

We then talked about how perceptions and studies of ADHD have let down women and other minority

genders, as well as how typical understanding of ADHD focuses more on school and productivity

and not emotions and relationships. Kate talked about how having ADHD can impact dating

and relationships, especially unpacking what rejection sensitivity is and how it can lead to a lot of

people with ADHD, either staying in unhealthy relationships or going along with risky behavior

or unable to say no when they want to. We talked about the relationship between ADHD and

consent, and Kate discussed the need for conversations and education that

highlight neurodivergency in kink to create better inclusion and safety.

We also discussed Kate's own views on whether there is a link between people having ADHD

and being kinky and why she thinks kink is a great tool for sex and managing stimulation

for people with ADHD.

We spoke about relationship dynamics that occur in couples where one partner is ADHD,

how it leads to parenting dynamics and Kate's advice on how to help this in domestic relationships.

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