ADHD: Millions Don’t Know They Have It & Blame Themselves for Years | Heal Thy Self w/ Dr. G # 430

Heal Thy Self with Dr. G

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Health & Fitness, Alternative Health

5 • 1.5K Ratings

🗓️ 3 November 2025

⏱️ 30 minutes

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0:00.0	So many adults are living with ADHD and don't even know it. They just think of themselves as
0:05.5	scattered or lazy, and then they blamed themselves, and this was me. I found out I had ADHD at
0:11.7	41 years old. Suddenly everything made sense. The teachers who said, he has so much potential,
0:18.3	but he's just distracted. Always late, losing my keys again and again,
0:22.9	half-finished projects, overwhelmed by so many texts, hyper aware of every sound, clashing with my
0:28.7	super organized dad growing up. I didn't see the pattern. I just blamed myself with so much shame
0:33.9	over and over, but it wasn't laziness. It was ADHD, and I didn't know it until I was
0:39.0	this age right now, 41. And if any of that sounds familiar, this episode might change the way
0:44.5	how you see yourself. We'll break down the real signs, the science, the shame, and the tools
0:49.1	that can actually help. And I'll share my story, so maybe you can finally connect the dots in yours. Hey everyone so
0:56.4	I need to tell you something. I just found out that I have ADHD at 41 years old. Yes, 41 years old.
1:03.8	This is a crazy thing. The moment I learned about this, my entire life suddenly made sense.
1:10.4	Like someone handed me a decoder ring for every
1:13.6	frustrating pattern that I've ever had. You know, those report cards that said, Christian,
1:19.8	dot, dot, dot, he has so much potential, but he's so easily distracted. Sad face, ADHD. Oh, always running late, no matter how hard I try, and trust me, I tried,
1:31.1	and I spent a lot of money trying to fix this, fix, quote unquote, ADHD. Oh, okay, losing my
1:38.6	keys, my wallet, important documents over and over, ADHD. God, the amount of projects that I
1:44.0	started and never finished,
1:45.6	books that I just halfway through abandoned, I must have the world record for that.
1:50.4	My partners in my life getting frustrated when I leave things out or I forget things or show up
1:57.0	late or forget plans and swearing I'd be on time and all the drama that that's caused,
2:01.6	all of it. ADHD? And for years, I thought I was just, I don't know, disorganized or scatterbrained
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