Welcome to the I Have ADHD podcast, where it's all about education, encouragement, and coaching for adults with ADHD.

I'm your host, Kristen Carter, and I have ADHD.

Let's chat about the frustrations, humor, and challenges of adulting relationships, working, and achieving with this neurodevelopmental disorder.

I'll help you understand your unique brain, unlock your potential, and move from point A to point B.

Hey, what's up? This is Kristen Carter, and you are listening to the I Have ADHD podcast episode number 182.

I am medicated, I am caffeinated, I just had Oreos and milk, and I am ready to roll.

How are you? How are you? I'm so glad that you're here with me today and that you decided to press play on this glorious podcast.

I hope that you're loving the series on relationships. I keep extending it because I keep coming up with things that are really, really important, and that is displayed in this episode

because I didn't originally plan to have this included in our relationship series, but I think that for ADHD or saying no is a big, big struggle in our relationships, and so I wanted to include it.

We're going to talk about when to say no, how to say no, why it's so hard for us ADHDers to say no.

And then next week I have an awesome interview with Dr. Russell Ramsey on how to build self trust, and that is going to be the closer of our series on relationships.

So that's six episodes on better relationships for adults with ADHD, and I really do hope and pray that it has been so helpful to you because I know so many ADHDers out there are struggling in their relationships.

And hey, if it has been helpful to you, or if this podcast in general has been helpful to you, would you take just a minute of your time and rate and or review it for me?

It would mean so much to me, and not only that, it really does make a big difference in the podcasty algorithms, and it really helps other adults with ADHD be able to find this podcast.

Especially if you're listening on Apple Podcasts or on Spotify, would you just go ahead and take a minute to do it? I would so appreciate it.

You can do it right now, where you're listening to this in real time, and for those of you who aren't sure how to make it happen, just find the home screen of the podcast show, and on Spotify, the rating button is at the top.

And on Apple Podcasts, you have to scroll down a little bit, like it's below the first maybe 10 episodes, you'll just click that five star button, and I'm going to tell you exactly what happens when you do press that rating button.

Three incredible things happen. First, an angel gets its wings.

Second, I get a huge hit of dopamine every time that number goes up. And third, more adults with ADHD are able to find this podcast. So really it's a triple whammy. You're doing the world a huge service.

Now, I want to read you a beautiful review. I haven't done this in forever, but I was just kind of scrolling through reviews today, and I thought this one was so poignant, and it really displays why you may want to take a moment to rate or review this podcast.

So odd body black says, I found the name of this highly rated podcast months ago, but I didn't have the courage to listen to it. I was afraid that it wouldn't help, that it wouldn't resonate, and that I would end up feeling more lost, more isolated, and more alone.

I just couldn't face losing any tiny bit of hope or motivation, but holy crap. I wasn't halfway through the second episode before I had tears of relief and an incredibly warm sense of being seen, and that feeling has persisted through so many episodes that I had to write a review to keep this podcast floating at the top of the ocean of stuff that's out there. So that other little lonely life rafts out there in the chaos.

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