181 ADHD and Relationships Part 4: Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab

I Have ADHD Podcast

Kristen Carder

Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Education, Mental Health

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🗓️ 18 October 2022

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

ADHDers are notoriously bad at setting boundaries. So many factors go into this, but I believe it’s mostly because we feel poorly about ourselves, we don’t have a lot of self-trust, and we are embarrassed about our annoying ADHD symptoms. The result of this is that we ADHDers often don’t believe we even deserve to set boundaries. Additionally, many of us were not raised in families that talked about or even allowed boundaries to be set…so, it comes to boundaries, most of us are floundering.

A big part of having healthy relationships is being able to express our own personal boundaries. But, how? Like actually, HOW?

I am by no means an expert on this topic, so I invited an expert on to share her wisdom with us: best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert, Nedra Glover Tawwab.

Nedra has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. This episode has the potential to change your life, so enjoy it!

Nedra’s book, "Set Boundaries Find Peace" and the accompanying workbook are available on amazon, And I highly recommend that you visit her website to take her boundaries quiz…this will help you to determine your next step when it comes to boundaries.

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0:00.0	Welcome to the I have ADHD podcast where it's all about education, encouragement, and coaching for adults with ADHD.
0:16.0	I'm your host, Kristen Carter, and I have ADHD.
0:20.0	Let's chat about the frustrations, humor, and challenges of adulting, relationships, working, and achieving
0:26.4	with this neurodevelopmental disorder. I'll help you understand your unique brain,
0:31.8	unlock your potential, and move from point A to point A. understand your Hey what's up? This is Kristen Carter and you are listening to the I have
0:43.7	ADHD podcast episode number 181. I am medicated, I am caffeinated, and I am
0:50.4	ready to roll. Today is part four in our series on relationships and ADHD.
0:57.2	Last week's episode was all about safety
0:59.5	and relationships and today we are talking about boundaries.
1:04.0	In my experience, ADHD years are notoriously awful with boundaries.
1:08.0	I believe that some of the reasons are that we feel really badly about ourselves.
1:13.9	We don't believe we deserve to set boundaries because a lot of our ADHD symptoms are very
1:18.8	annoying to other people.
1:20.2	And so to make up for that, we operate with very few boundaries.
1:25.0	In addition, many of us were parented by emotionally immature parents who didn't allow for boundaries at home and maybe as an adult your parents still don't allow for boundaries.
1:36.5	So I'm just going to go ahead and generalize here and say that as a community we could use some
1:42.1	major help in this area.
1:45.0	So many of our relationships could be improved if we were willing to express our limits and our preferences.
1:51.0	And not just our relationships, but our experience of the world would improve like we would be happier.
1:58.0	Imagine being someone who could show up in your marriage, and your parenting, and your friendships,
2:03.6	and clearly express your limits and your preferences.
2:08.3	Imagine being someone who could show up
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