Hey deserving listeners, today I'm going to answer patron emails.

It's one of my favorite things to do and let's get to it.

This first email is from patron Kiko, she writes.

I am officiating at my best friend's wedding coming up soon. I loved what you said on adaptability regarding

Erica and Stephanie on 90-day fiance. Could you give me a quick sentence on why adaptability in a relationship, especially a marriage, is important.

What role does being adaptable play in a marriage?

End of email.

The first thing I'll say to Patron Kiko is I think you emailed me this several months ago.

So I'm guessing the wedding has already passed and I am too late to provide any kind of help and I apologize for that.

The second thing I'll say is officiating at a wedding can be wonderful.

I have officiated before and it is both terrifying and wonderful and highly gratifying. I recently

decided I'm never going to do it again because I am not great on stage I am very nervous as a person on stage and

although there's a lot of prose and a lot of meaning and a lot of

wonderfulness that comes from officiating.

The nervousness is too much for me, so I'm not going to do that anymore.

The third thing I'll say is about adaptability and I don't remember what I said during the reaction video of 90 day fiancé with Eric and Stephanie but what I'll say is that adaptability is more of a result or an outcome than a quality, meaning that

couples do a lot of things that result in being adaptive or being, you know, having adaptability.

Then let me explain off the top my head.

The deeper qualities that a individual or a couple

will dedicate themselves to or skills that they'll have are the following

that will result in an outcome of adaptability.

So being humble, having humility, meaning that you understand that your point of view isn't

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