Hey deserving listeners, I consider it my personal mission this week to answer every single patron email that I have cataloged in my archive.

So let's get to it. My name is Dr. Kirkhonda, I'm a therapist and a professor and this is the Psychology in Seattle podcast

This first email is from patron Kiara from Miami. She writes

After listening to your deep dive on attachment, I'm curious if you think

it is best to pick up a baby every single time the baby cries or wines to help them to form

a secure attachment, end of email.

Yeah, so this is a great question, and it's a question that every parent wonders about,

especially when you actually start parenting a child, before you have your first child,

you imagine, oh, I'm always going to be there for my kid, I'm going to love my child, I'm going

to be there.

And then the reality of parenting hits and you're tired or

distracted or just in a bad mood and you don't have the energy to constantly

tend to your child's

every whim.

And so what are you supposed to do?

And there's these conflicting notions out there

of, well, you don't want to turn your child into a spoiled brat, right?

So you have to teach your child a lesson.

Well at what age do you teach children lessons?

The general rule in what the research shows is that you want to keep the stress of your child to a minimum.

And this applies to any age, honestly.

And so let's take it in three different age groups. So to a nine

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