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All right. One of the classic misconceptions that people bring to Buddhist practice is due to poor translations of the Buddhist teaching.

A concept he had called Ubadonna,

which means it should have been translated just as clinging the tendency to try to get

happiness and peace from objects and behaviors that are not capable of

providing lasting peace that are just short-term pleasures. The Buddha called that Upadana and

it should be translated as clinging to something but many translations use the word

attachment if you want to get some Buddhist goat to say,

oh you look very attached to that, whatever that is, you know? So attachment in Buddha's circles is often

used as a negative attribute, but in fact in attachment, the ability to securely bond with another human being or other

human beings is probably the most positive attribute there is. In fact it is very much from any psychological

perspective attachment is one of the most important skills, secure attachment that you can have as a human being.

Because other human beings are the way that we understand our emotions.

They're the way we regulate our emotions, they're the way we regulate our emotions, they're the way we feel safe in the world.

So I never use attachment to mean something bad like clinging.

For me, attachment is always positive.

Another misunderstanding is the Buddha had the word varaga, which is a positive thing.

It means calming down, releasing our obsessive fixation with something.

But very often that positive attribute

was translated as detachment, which in psychology is actually not terrific.

Detachment is actually very often a state of aloofness indifference, not caring, being emotionally

numb.

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