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Vibin' & Kinda Thrivin'

Access Revoked: Choosing Me, Not Mayhem

Vibin' & Kinda Thrivin'

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Society & Culture, Health & Fitness

3.71.5K Ratings

🗓️ 11 September 2025

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Summary

Clear, direct communication, reciprocity, and adult friendships are the theme of this solo catch-up. Alessandra gets honest about recognizing patterns (hello, boundaries!), pulling back when there’s no reciprocity, and why you don’t owe anyone a 24/7 version of you. We dig into millennial money shame (renting vs. buying in 2025), dating after divorce when you have kids, and the grief that comes when friendships shift as loved ones enter the “mom era.” Plus: fall fragrance layering with pistachio lotion, dark-academia book recs, and cozy TV/book adaptations to binge.

Books mentioned: The Secret History (Donna Tartt), The Very Secret Society of Irregular Witches (Sangu Mandanna), Educated (Tara Westover).

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0:00.0

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0:05.5

That's audible.co.ukesl-wondery. Oh, hello everybody. Welcome back to another episode. It is just you and I today chatting. I missed you. I hope you enjoyed the test episode. I really loved my conversation with her. It was so insane to be able to talk to somebody that you've watched online for so long. And

0:57.6

something I love about her and women like her is that she's unapologetically herself in

1:05.1

several ways, but especially in ways where she can't acknowledge her wrongs and take accountability. I've watched her do that

1:13.2

through the years. And I think that's a really important part of being in the public eye, but also

1:18.8

just growing up. So I really enjoyed that conversation with her. And I hope you guys did too.

1:25.1

But I figured we could have a little solo convo today.

1:29.3

I missed my girlies.

1:31.4

Wanted to chat with my besties.

1:33.4

There has been a few things on my mind recently,

1:38.6

based on the things that I've seen,

1:40.4

based on some things that I've heard recently,

1:43.1

and I just figured we be a good chat about

1:44.6

them. There's been a continuing theme in my life recently where I am being put in positions that

1:57.0

I feel can be solved with easy communication.

2:03.4

Simple communication, clear direct communication.

2:06.1

You guys know, that's who I am.

2:07.0

That's what I'm about.

2:09.7

Especially in terms of giving advice.

2:11.9

Every time you guys have a write-in or something,

2:15.2

most of the time my advice is going to be to communicate.

2:22.4

Unless there have been several examples and things to indicate that it's going to fall in deaf ears, it's going to be maybe addressed for a

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