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The Virtual Couch

Acceptance Equals Awesome, NOT Apathy

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 15 December 2020

⏱️ 31 minutes

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Summary

Acceptance can be both liberating and confusing. To accept that you may not be a professional baseball playing astronaut who marries a supermodel and lives in a mansion overlooking the beach can in one sense be the end of a dream (OK, a pretty far fetched dream, to be fair). Often our brains are afraid of accepting our current situation because we fear that with acceptance comes apathy. More often, however, acceptance can be empowering. Accepting that you are a human, full of emotion, thoughts, frustrations, fears, and more, actually allows you to move forward without the feeling of shame. For many people, that movement can be the first step toward an incredibly rewarding, sometimes frustrating, sometimes exhilarating life. Tony also refers to the article What Are Primary Emotions? Learn To Understand Your Instincts https://blog.mindvalley.com/primary-emotions/ (https://blog.mindvalley.com/primary-emotions/) - Sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) to learn more about Tony’s upcoming “Magnetic Marriage” program! - This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can’t continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch)offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight.-Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript click here https://descript.com?lmref=v95myQ-Please subscribe to The Virtual Couch YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/ (https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/) and sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) to learn more about Tony’s upcoming “Magnetic Marriage” program!-Tony's FREE parenting course, “Tips For Parenting Positively Even In the Not So Positive Times” is available NOW. Just go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/ (https://www.tonyoverbay.com/courses-2/)and sign up today. This course will help you understand why it can be so difficult to communicate with and understand your children. You’ll learn how to keep your buttons hidden, how to genuinely give praise that will truly build inner wealth in your child, teen, or even in your adult children, and you’ll learn how to move from being “the punisher” to being someone your children will want to go to when they need help.-Tony's new best-selling book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" is now available on Kindle. https://amzn.to/38mauBo-Tony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" now available on Amazon https://amzn.to/33fk0U4 (https://amzn.to/33fk0U4).

Transcript

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0:00.0

Are you afraid of rejection? Do you have a fear that if people truly knew who you were at your

0:05.8

core, that they would reject you? Or if they really knew who you were, if you really dug deep into

0:11.6

all of your thoughts and your fears and your hopes and your dreams, is there almost this fear of

0:16.2

acceptance? That if people truly knew who you were and they did accept you, then what?

0:21.2

They might move on.

0:22.5

But we're going deep today.

0:24.0

We're going to talk about radical acceptance, primary, secondary emotions, all of these, and so much more.

0:30.9

Coming up on today's episode in the virtual couch.

0:54.9

Okay. Hey, everybody. Welcome to episode 238 of the virtual couch. I am your host, Tony Overbay. I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist, a certified mindful have a coach, a writer, a speaker, a husband, a father of four, an ultramarathon runner, and a creator of the Pathback, which is an online pornography recovery program.

0:59.7

It's changing lives.

1:01.1

Truly, go check it out, pathback recovery.com.

1:03.6

At the very least, go download the short e-book that is there that talks about five myths

1:08.1

that people fall prey to when trying to stop numbing out,

1:12.4

stop turning to pornography as a coping mechanism for not feeling as connected to their spouses,

1:17.0

to their kids, their health, their faith, their career, their life. And head over to tonyoverbay.com

1:21.8

and sign up to find out more about some upcoming programs, including a very exciting release

1:26.1

of my magnetic marriage

1:27.6

course coming in February if you didn't listen to last week's episode about the

1:31.6

consequences of a lack of a connected conversation please go check it out that's

1:36.2

one of those episodes that I put a lot of thought and effort into and it's getting

1:40.9

passed around a lot for sure the The download numbers are wonderful and amazing.

1:44.6

And in that episode, I unveil my four pillars for a connected conversation.

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