Hi, today we're going to be talking about a well-designed happy life with or without them.

So how would it feel if I said we need to live a life that isn't dependent on our loved ones sobriety.

And if we can create that kind of life, we can have a happy future. If they get sober or not, we can learn to live with or without

our partners. Here's a loving truth. We hope and we pray that our loved ones will not

drink too much or they will stop using drugs and start being faithful. But when we put our lives on hold, hoping that

they will keep their promise of remaining sober and stopping their bad habits,

we are leaving our happiness in their hands.

We are saying, I can be happy and I can have a good time as long as they follow through with their promises of staying sober. That is so hard to stay. I'm so sorry of staying sober.

But what if they don't?

What if they never get sober?

Will we continue to subject ourselves to an unhappy life?

How many times are we going to be let down before we start to say, enough?

Enough! If they Enough.

Enough. If they get sober, that's great.

We will be so proud.

But we are not going to wait around anymore. We are going to start designing a life that makes us happy,

whether they get sober or not.

So what does a well-designed happy life look like to you?

What does it look like?

Take a moment to imagine what happiness to you looks like.

Close your eyes.

Take a deep breath and think about the things that make you feel good.

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