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Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

A Toddler's Do-It-Myself Attitude Ends In Tantrums

Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

JLML Press

Kids & Family, Parenting

4.73.8K Ratings

🗓️ 9 July 2018

⏱️ 17 minutes

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Summary

A parent writes that her 2-year-old is deep in a "want to do it myself" phase. While she recognizes her son’s need for autonomy and self-sufficiency, she admits that she often runs out of patience, which results in him having a full-blown meltdown or tantrum. She’s wondering how she might “set limits so it doesn’t take forever to do things but also respect his need for independence.” For more advice on common infant/toddler parenting issues, please check out Janet's books at Amazon and Audible (https://adbl.co/2OBVztZ). Also available for download, her audio series "Sessions" -- recorded consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (SessionsAudio.com). Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

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0:00.0

Hi, this is Janet Landsbury. Welcome to Unruffold.

0:05.0

Today I've got a note here from a parent who says that her son is in a want to do it

0:12.1

myself phase. He wants to do things himself, but she's finding that he's not able to and

0:19.4

she ends up doing it for him and then he ends up having a tantrum. So what should she do?

0:23.8

How should she handle this healthy desire for independence that he has?

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1:45.0

Here's the note I received. Hello, my two-year-old is deep in a want to do it myself phase.

1:54.8

I really want to respect his need for autonomy and self-sufficiency, but I'm having a hard time

2:00.1

creating a structure around the timing aspect of that. For example, he asked to do something

2:06.3

himself, go up the stairs for bath time, take off his pants before getting his diaper changed,

2:12.0

putting a toy away. And I oblige, but then he delays and won't do what it is I'm telling him needs

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