Psychology in Seattle.

So Bob I have a lot of questions from listeners for you.

So I thought I would read those questions and then we would answer them.

What do you say? That sounds curious? This is the Psychology and Seattle

podcast. I'm your host Dr Kirkconda. I'm a therapist and a professor at Antioch University

who are you Bob? I am a therapist in practice here in Seattle I do a lot of

couple counseling and I do that dBT skills class and you and me have been friends like half my life

Half your life. Yeah half my life too. Yeah, so this is from an anonymous patron. This is about the

disorganized attachment style that we talked about. Oh yeah. And they write,

hi Kirk I just want to thank you for being so blatant about

disorganized attachment. It makes sense that it would be frustrating to treat

as it is so horribly frustrating to live with when you finally learn about your

own behaviors.

It does get very sad and self-defeating, more often than not, but knowing as much as I can about it does help a ton.

How does Bob know that his therapist likes him?

So just chime in, they write a little bit more here, but just to chime in case people don't remember.

We were talking about disorganized attachment and how it is a very, so when we're mistreated growing up and neglected and abused and that sort of thing,

we will develop sometimes what we call the disorganized attachment

in which we have a difficulty finding ourselves. We have difficult working models of self and others meaning that we because of the way we were treated we have a working model of the self that can be quite negative and a working model of other people that can be

quite negative as well expecting negative, interpreting negative, not

really having much hope for relationships going well, not trusting other people, and that there's

no way of coping. When you have disorganized, the word disorganized comes from, there's no organization to the defenses.

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