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You know here at Focus on the Family, there are a lot of parents who get in touch with us and they're

fearful, genuinely fearful about their children's future. There's nothing wrong with wanting

the best for your child, but sometimes that turns into pushing

them too much, and we're going to talk about that today.

I'm John Fuller, along with Danny Werther, and we'll hear from Dr. Kevin Lehman about how important moms are in their son's development.

As we begin, here's Jim Daly.

What happens in that relationship with an overly critical mom? You hear about that person but the son can't do much right and she's constantly on him about this or that

and she's constantly on him about this or that in the Christian community we can lean in that direction because

we're given to following the rules. We want to live our lives as perfectly as

we can as Christians. We want to live as

sinless as we can as Christians. So mom swoops in and the little boy who is

now 1314 struggling with hormones and other things and attraction

how does that mom not project this idea that that little boy has to be perfect and

what damage can be done when the mom is

doing that you ask good questions you ought to be on the radio. This is one that

I'm telling you gentlemen we could talk about this till the proverbial

cows come home because that critical-eyed parent sets up destructive relationships lifetime for that young son or that

young daughter either sex back in 1985 boy doesn't seem like it was that long ago, I wrote the birth order book.

And in that book, I talked about the critical-eyed parent

is a huge determinant as to whether or not that little firstborn

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