A Man's Guide To Stop Numbing Out

ManTalks Podcast

Connor Beaton

Education, Self-improvement, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Society & Culture, Mental Health

4.8 • 591 Ratings

🗓️ 14 March 2024

⏱️ 37 minutes

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Talking points: mindset, emotions, habits, burnout Ever get the feeling you...don't feel anything? Yeah, me too. This is something that affects just about everyone at some point in their lives, and it contributes to overuse of all kinds of coping mechanisms. Here's what numbing out is, where it comes from, and a five-step method on how to get out of it. (00:00:00) - Intro and the biggest misconceptions around numbing out (00:05:26)- Don’t see numbness as a villain, and some numbness “caveats” (00:09:29) - What causes us to numb out? How is it a learned response? (00:14:55) - What we need to know before we stop numbing out (00:17:22) - The first step: what are you using to numb out? (00:18:36) - Create a plan, and why you shouldn’t expect cold turkey to go well (00:21:42) - If you have trauma, there’s a caveat (00:23:32) - Numbness is itself an experience (00:25:17) - Use your breath to reconnect to your body. Here’s why (00:31:03) - Look for sensation (00:33:45) - Final step: letting the sensations have a voice *** Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	All right team, welcome back to the man talk show.
0:05.6	Connor Beaton here.
0:06.5	And today we are going to dive deep into how you stop numbing out.
0:13.0	And we're going to talk about what it is, what actually is numbing out.
0:16.5	We're going to talk about why does it happen.
0:18.5	And then I'm going to end this little episode with how do you
0:22.4	actually stop? How do you actually move through it? So there's a couple pieces that we're going to
0:27.7	start with. Number one is just the biggest misconception around numbing out. The biggest misconception
0:32.7	that most men have and most of us go through when it comes to numbing out is the notion that when
0:39.2	you're numb, you're not feeling anything. And that couldn't be further from the truth.
0:45.4	When you are numb, it's not because you're empty and it's not because you're not feeling anything.
0:49.7	It's because you have been feeling too much and your system has needed to shut down. So it's not that
0:56.2	you're empty. It's that you're full, right? You are emotionally full. You're psychologically full.
1:01.8	Your body is peaked out. It's capped out. Your nervous system's capped out. And so your brain has
1:08.6	had to sort of sever the connection or disconnect from it in some way,
1:12.7	shape, or form, either by using an external substance like booze, weed, porn, food, etc., TV,
1:19.9	social media, or by literally just disconnecting from what you are feeling in your body.
1:27.3	And this allows you to go back into the safety
1:30.6	net of your brain, where you can just go back into your mind and go back into your thoughts
1:36.2	and not have to deal with what's happening in your body. So numbness, first and foremost,
1:41.8	is an emotional and physical state.
1:45.2	It's actually an experience where you disconnect from the sensations in the body and the emotions that are happening in your body.
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