A Man's Guide To Anxious Attachment

ManTalks Podcast

Connor Beaton

Society & Culture, Education, Health & Fitness, Relationships, Mental Health, Self-improvement

4.8 • 591 Ratings

🗓️ 29 February 2024

⏱️ 48 minutes

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Talking points: anxiety, parents, relationships, attachment Thanks to everyone who's written in on these guides, I love hearing from you. Next up? Anxious attachment. What is it, where does it come from, and what you can do to work yourself—and your relationships—away from it. If you've ever found yourself doing stuff like getting anxious because they didn't text you back or because you need their phone password, this might be the ep for you. Curious about other guides? Check out my free PDF, A Man's Guide To Ending Codependency: https://training.mantalks.com/codependency (00:00:00) - Intro (00:03:14)- The core essence of anxious attachment (00:07:53) - Some differences between secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment (00:09:57) - Causes of anxious attachment; number one, inconsistent parental responses (00:15:08) - Ask yourself: how was my upbringing unpredictable, or where were my parents unpredictable? (00:17:19) - Cause number two: overly intrusive caretakers (00:23:38) - Cause number three: emotional dependence encouraged by caregivers (00:27:03) - Next is parental unavailability or rejection (00:29:45) - Lastly, abuse, trauma, or PTSD (00:30:45) - So what do we do? (00:34:25) - The biggest, most important piece: learn how to self-regulate. Here’s how (00:41:18) - Solution number two: exposure therapy (00:43:43) - Solution number three: work on your self-esteem and self-worth (00:45:34) - Detach your worth from others’ validation *** Build brotherhood in person. Join a Men's Weekend Pick up my book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don't forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify For more episodes, visit us at ManTalks.com | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | and yes, even TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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