Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello my chickens, It is the dog days of summer here in New York. It's the time of

year that I always fantasize about moving to some perfect weather place where it's always 70

and sunny and it never rains but there's no drought, right, somehow magically.

Which is actually now that I'm talking about it I think kind of how we think about life right we think that there's some perfect life where we can just have the good and not the bad

and we do this with our jobs and with our partners and with our

family and even with ourselves, right? We want to keep what we think is good but

get rid of what we think is bad. And what we don't realize is that it's like an ecosystem.

Right, what do you get if there's only sun and no rain?

That's a desert.

Now, there's nothing wrong with being a desert, right?

Deserts are beautiful, wonderful.

But a desert is just one kind of experience, right?

And it has its own limitations, just like a rainforest does.

You can't have lush plants and no rain, right? You can't have all sun but no

sun. Nature's ecosystems work together, right? There's a positive and the

negative, which are just thoughts we have, right? But that's the yin and the yang, the black and the white, right?

And that's how I like to think about other people and myself as well,

that we're all part of a whole, right?

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