Welcome back to the place we find ourselves podcast. I'm Adam Young and what I want to do over the next series of episodes is address the very important question of

how do I engage with someone who has harmed me.

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Okay, back to today's topic.

Suppose you have come to realize some of the ways that your mother, for example, has harmed you over the years. What are you supposed to do now?

How do you engage with a parent now that you've come to realize some of the ways that they harmed you to say it more broadly?

What is my calling with regard to relating to my parents? And that brings us to the subject of judging other people.

Because the entire question, how do I engage a parent who has harmed me? That entire question presupposes that you have already judged that your mother or father has, in fact, done harm.

If you are uncomfortable with the idea of judging another human being, please go back and listen to podcast episode 72.

Title, judging others, is it okay to judge those who have harmed me? Because this series of episodes right now presupposes that you are willing to name the harm of others and that you're willing to judge them as wrong for perpetrating that harm.

So I should say briefly here that when I use the word judge, I do not mean to condemn or to shun. I'm using the word judge to mean to assess accurately.

I'm not using the word judge in the sense of condemning someone or punishing someone.

If you are willing to judge another human being who has harmed you, your first task is to judge them accurately.

It's important to understand that there are at least three kinds of people in the world.

And this thesis that I'm about to state is going to be very important throughout this whole series, probably a four part series of episodes.

Here are the three kinds of people in the world. Number one, there are normal, what I call garden variety centers.

Number two, there are wicked people. And number three, there are evil people. Three kinds of people, normal everyday centers, wicked people, and evil people.

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