917 | Stop Telling People Your Dreams: 9 Reasons It’s Holding You Back

The Rachel Hollis Podcast

Rachel Hollis

How To, Society & Culture, Personal Development, Personal Growth, Relationships, Health And Wellness, Self-improvement, Education

4.6 • 16.4K Ratings

🗓️ 11 December 2025

⏱️ 47 minutes

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Summary

In this episode, Rachel Hollis emphasizes the importance of safeguarding early dreams from external criticism and skepticism. She highlights how initial dreams are fragile and can be easily crushed by doubts, even those from well-meaning loved ones. Rachel outlines nine reasons to keep your goals private initially, including avoiding the influence of worriers, the dilution of your vision when translating it for others, and protecting yourself from others' projections of their limitations. Get your copy of Rachel's New Book Here: Audible, Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Millon, Bookshop.org, or wherever books are sold! 02:03 The Importance of Keeping Dreams Private 04:13 Reason 1: Worriers Kill More Dreams Than Haters 07:38 Reason 2: Explaining Your Vision Dilutes It 11:28 Reason 3: People Only Know the Old You 14:14 Reason 4: People Project Their Limitations Onto You 18:47 Reason 5: Talking Tricks Your Brain Into Thinking You Took Action 25:46 Navigating Confrontation and Pursuing Dreams 27:21 Realizing Self-Worth and Ambition 28:11 The Impact of Silent Efforts 29:18 Growth and Its Effects on Relationships 31:12 Personal Development and External Influences 34:36 Protecting Your Dream from Negative Opinions 35:54 The Importance of Emotional Maturity in Dreams 38:20 Avoiding Confusion from External Opinions 39:15 Trusting Your Inner Voice and Taking Action 40:11 The Consequences of Listening to Others 44:25 Final Thoughts and Encouragement Sign up for Rachel’s weekly email: https://msrachelhollis.com/insider/ Call the podcast hotline and leave a voicemail! Call (737) 400-4626 Watch the podcast on YouTube: http://youtube.com/@MsRachelHollis Follow along on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/MsRachelHollis To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices.

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0:00.0	early dreams like new dreams are fragile and they can't survive criticism later on down the road
0:12.3	a year in or eight months in you've been working at it every day you're seeing progress it can
0:18.0	survive the criticism but at the very, it's too vulnerable to withstand any doubt,
0:25.7	even little doubt. The dream is still forming. You don't even have language for it yet.
0:32.0	And you for sure don't have proof yet. You just have desire. And one rude comment, one passive
0:41.8	aggressive comment, one raised eyebrow from the wrong person can derail the whole freaking thing.
0:48.4	It's hard enough to overcome our internal beliefs about something, right?
0:55.0	When you release it to anybody, even the person who loves you most in the entire world,
1:01.9	it can dream crush you.
1:07.5	Hey guys, I'm Rachel Hollis, and this is the show where we talk about life, real life.
1:15.6	Around here, we cover everything, from habits and motivation to relationships, parenting, and what it looks like to build a life that you love.
1:26.2	If you're trying to grow, heal, or just feel a little bit more
1:30.4	like yourself, you're in the right place. I'm willing to bet there's something in you that
1:42.3	wants to change. Maybe it's a dream that you've barely even admitted to
1:48.3	yourself. Maybe it's an idea that keeps tugging at you when the house is quiet. Maybe it's a version of
1:56.2	yourself you can finally see, even just a little, even if that vision scares you a bit.
2:03.0	And before you take the next step, I need you to hear this.
2:08.2	Your dream doesn't need an audience.
2:12.8	It needs courage.
2:15.2	Your dream doesn't need their buy-in. It needs you to be a builder. Here is something
2:23.2	that I know after two decades of chasing down goals and dreams, most dreams do not die from a lack
2:31.5	of applause. Most dreams die from overexposure. They die from a lack of applause. Most dreams die from over exposure. They die from being explained
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