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Shameless Leadership

909: LEADERSHIP MINDSET: How Patriarchal Perfectionism May Be Harming You

Shameless Leadership

Sara Dean

Education, Management, How To, Business, Self-improvement

4.7800 Ratings

🗓️ 15 October 2024

⏱️ 34 minutes

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Summary

You may know by now that I could preach all day about how women are programmed by the patriarchy to show up in this world in very specific ways that primarily (and almost exclusively) benefit white men. Please know when I say “patriarchy” I am referring to a system that is not only harmful to women but also undermines and completely stunts the emotional development of most men. This system benefits few, but the few who benefit have the most tremendous power - globally. Our patriarchal society has created numerous social constructs that lead us to unknowingly behave in ways that benefit some (mostly men) while holding others back (including but not limited to: women, people of color, members of the LGBTQIA+ community, people with neuro diversities, people with disabilities, and people with larger bodies). Over the years, I’ve talked about mom guilt as a social construct and imposter syndrome as a social construct. Both of these social constructs are part of a system that intentionally makes women and moms think and behave in specific ways that ultimately limit how they show up in the world. These limitations create more space for others (most commonly white men) to have more opportunities to find success, build wealth, and amass power.   In today’s episode, I’m going to talk about perfectionism as a social construct that largely impacts women. We will dig into different forms of perfectionism, as well as how you can start to reject perfectionism to get out of your head and get on with your life. Once you see perfectionism for what it is, I hope you are able to reframe your mindset around it to release some of the internal expectations that have perhaps been holding you back for years - if not decades. Buckle up. This is a good one!   Links mentioned: NYU Article: Problematizing Perfectionism: A Closer Look at the Perfectionism Construct Harvard Business Review Article: How Perfectionists Can Get Out of Their Own Way Harvard Business Review Article: Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome  Book: Inclusion on Purpose by Rushika Tulshyan We love the sponsors that make this show possible! You can always find all the special deals and codes for all our current sponsors on our website: https://shamelessleadership.com/sponsor Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at [email protected]. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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your host, Sarah Dean. This show is for women, transgender people, non-binary folks, as well as allies, who are committed to advancing their leadership while also advancing the leadership of those around them. In each episode, we will offer practical tips, leadership strategies, and inspiring stories to help you become a more confident, compassionate, and

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inclusive leader. The truth is, you were born to lead. What might happen for you if you were to

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wholeheartedly embrace that part of yourself? So let's start now, together. Hello,

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shameless leaders. Today we're talking about perfectionism and perfectionism as a social construct and perfectionism

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as it relates to the patriarchy. Ooh, this is like layered and juicy and a really,

1:18.3

really fascinating topic, something I've been talking about for years now, but I haven't had the

1:23.0

opportunity to really talk about it in podcasting in this way before. So I'm pretty excited. And so we're going to

1:29.4

talk about what perfectionism looks like, why it looks the way that it does, why it looks the way that it

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does for women specifically. And then what do we do? What do we do once we like know and see all this?

1:40.8

Because it's one of those things, as many of our episodes are. Like once you hear it, once you know it, you can't unsee, unhear, and know it. And so then we're left with like,

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wait, now how do we move forward differently? And so we'll get into that as well. My hope, though,

1:54.3

is that you can reframe your mindset and relationship with perfectionism today because I'm hopeful

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that we can start to look at perfectionism

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through a different lens and rather that embracing it as like part of our DNA or something

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we were just born with or we just like can't help that we can look at it as something that we can

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overcome and actively reject in order to improve our quality of life and also in order to like model making mistakes

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