9 Proven Tips to Finding the One from Top Love Scientist (+ How To Navigate Modern Dating & Relationships)

The Liz Moody Podcast

Liz Moody

Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Education, Mental Health

4.8 • 2.9K Ratings

🗓️ 2 July 2025

⏱️ 78 minutes

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Summary

In today’s episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Logan Ury—behavioral scientist, dating coach, and author of How to Not Die Alone. We dive deep into the messy and sometimes painfully confusing world of modern dating. From the myths that keep us single to the science-backed truths about real lasting connection, Logan shares tons of actionable advice. We chat about how vulnerability and timing play crucial roles in finding a great match, why dating apps feel so overwhelming, what people think they want versus what actually leads to a long-term partnership, her “Three Dating Tendencies” framework, and how to stop self-sabotaging when it comes to finding your forever person. Whether you’re single and swiping, newly partnered, or just relationship-curious, this conversation is packed with insights that will totally reframe how you approach dating, relationships, and yourself. We will also be discussing the romantic comedy movie that just came out: The Materialist. If you don’t want to hear spoilers about the movie’s ending, stop listening when Liz gives a heads-up—around 44:40 on Spotify video or after the second ad break on Apple audio—and come back after you’ve seen it to hear Liz's and Logan’s different hot takes! In this episode, we get into: How to date like a scientist Finding your true deal-breakers Emotional intelligence & dating Money & dating Predictors of long-term success The stress test Physical expectations & dating If love is enough Modern masculinity & modern femininity Relation shopping vs. relation shipping Hot takes on the materialist movie For more from Logan Ury, find her on Instagram @loganury or online at www.loganury.com to check out her newsletter and matchmaking services. Read her book, How To Not Die Alone. Ready to uplevel every part of your life? Order Liz’s book 100 Ways to Change Your Life: The Science of Leveling Up Health, Happiness, Relationships & Success now! Connect with Liz on Instagram @lizmoody or online at www.lizmoody.com. Subscribe to the substack by visiting https://lizmoody.substack.com/welcome. To join The Liz Moody Podcast Club Facebook group, go to www.facebook.com/groups/thelizmoodypodcast. This episode is brought to you completely free thanks to the following podcast sponsors: Shopify: Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/lizm. Maui Nui: Head to mauinuivenison.com/LIZ to secure your access to a limited collection of Liz’s favorite nutrient-dense wildly delicious meat cuts and products. LMNT: Go to DrinkLMNT.com/LizMoody to get a free LMNT sample pack with any order. Evlo: Head to EvloFitness.com and use code LIZMOODY to get 6 full weeks completely FREE. The Liz Moody Podcast cover art by Zack. The Liz Moody Podcast music by Alex Ruimy. Formerly the Healthier Together Podcast. This podcast and website represents the opinions of Liz Moody and her guests to the show. The content here should not be taken as medical advice. The content here is for information purposes only, and because each person is so unique, please consult your healthcare professional for any medical questions. The Liz Moody Podcast Episode 343. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:00.0	We're in this really difficult moment where expectations of men are changing, expectations of women are changing, and the dating hasn't caught up with the data.
0:10.1	So do you think that the apps have created the problems of modern dating, or do you think there's other things at play?
0:15.9	Why do women get the ick when men are vulnerable?
0:19.4	It definitely is, and it's something that I see a lot and I
0:22.3	feel like it's one of the points that frustrates me about modern dating. What do you think about this?
0:26.1	I touched on this with the polarity thing a little bit, but a lot of women I've talked to feel like
0:30.1	height and being big is one of the last few masculine things left. So we know that in the United
0:35.9	States, only 14% of men are six feet or taller. You
0:39.6	basically have a club that's not letting in 86% of the people who want to enter. What I see happening
0:45.8	in a lot of my friends is that women are just taking on everything. The Lost Boys report that came out
0:51.0	in the UK in March, it said that one in seven young men in the UK, so ages 16 to 24, is neat.
0:59.1	And that stands for not in education, employment, or training.
1:02.8	Do you think there's anything wrong with marrying somebody for money?
1:06.9	How much do you think we should be considering these practical factors when we're deciding to build a life with somebody versus these are the feelings that I have around you?
1:14.4	Hello, friends, and welcome back to the Liz Moody podcast. Today we're going to talk about what is going on in the modern dating and relationship world because it is messy and it is complicated and it definitely has some very unique and particular challenges. I was inspired to
1:29.7	have this conversation when I saw the new movie, The Materialist with Dakota Johnson and Chris Evans and
1:35.2	Pedro Pascal. It talks about how the point of marriage has changed over the years and these
1:40.1	taboo dating things like how important money and height are. And I was watching the movie and I just
1:45.6	was like, took my notes out. And I was like, I got to take notes on this. Like, this is going to be a
1:49.9	really interesting podcast episode. And we do use the movie as a jumping off point, but we reserve any
1:57.1	spoilers till the end. And the movie is really just inspiration to talk about these taboo topics
2:03.0	that are hugely impacting our love lives. So if you have not seen the materialists, no worries.
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