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On Attachment

#89: How to Care Less About Others' Opinions (For the Recovering People Pleaser)

On Attachment

Stephanie Rigg

Relationships, Society & Culture

4.9 • 1.2K Ratings

🗓️ 6 July 2023

⏱️ 13 minutes

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Summary

Are you feeling stuck in the perennial battle between seeking external validation and staying true to your authentic self? In today's Q&A episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to detach from unhealthy people-pleasing behaviours that ask us to trade our authenticity for belonging and approval. 

This episode challenges you to take a deeper look into your people pleasing tendencies, learn to channel them more intentionally, and cultivate self-worth and self-respect. The goal? To build an internal foundation that allows us to handle criticism and rejection without losing our sense of self. 

Listen in as we explore the importance of cultivating conscious awareness around our patterns, discuss how to become more comfortable with who you are, and share practical tips to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships. 

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0:00.0

You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

0:19.7

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

0:22.9

and I'm really glad you're here.

0:27.8

Hey everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment. In today's episode, I am

0:33.5

answering the question of how do I stop caring about other people's opinions so much

0:39.4

as someone who is a recovering people pleaser? So I'm sure that this is a question that a lot

0:45.1

of people, myself included, will relate to because I think to varying degrees all of us

0:50.2

struggle with that tussle between not wanting to be overly reliant on external validation

0:58.0

or shaping ourselves around what we think will get us the approval and acceptance of others

1:06.4

while also not losing ourselves in the process. And I think it is yet another area where there's

1:12.1

a bit of mess and a bit of nuance. So I'm hoping that in today's episode, I can share some thoughts

1:17.7

on that and share some tips on how to build up a stronger sense of self so that we are

1:22.9

more resilient to the feedback of others while not swinging too far in the other direction of

1:29.5

totally insulating ourselves and having a false bravado around not caring what other people think

1:35.1

at all because I think that to the extent people purport to be completely immune to other

1:41.9

people's feedback and opinions and criticism, I think that's maybe not

1:46.5

totally honest because I think most of us do care about what other people think to varying

1:51.1

degrees. So that's what I'm going to be chatting through today. Before I dive into that,

1:56.0

a couple of quick announcements. The first being that healing anxious attachment, which many of you would know is my

2:02.9

signature course, is opening up again for enrollment later this month. It's an eight-week

2:08.2

course. Over a thousand people have gone through the program and it will be back. This will be

2:14.1

the fifth time. I'll be running it. I know that a lot of you are already on the wait list,

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