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The School of Greatness

882 Own Your Pain

The School of Greatness

Lewis Howes

Mindset, Relationships, Entrepreneurship, Mental Health, Education, Greatness, Fitness, Celebrity, Health, Inspiration, Success, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement, Business, Money, Self Care, Celebrity Interview

4.822K Ratings

🗓️ 29 November 2019

⏱️ 6 minutes

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Summary

YOU CAN’T DISMISS PAIN. So many of us try to cover up our pain. We eat too much, buy too much, and drink too much in order to not feel anything. I used to avoid my feelings. I didn’t have the tools to process heartache and loss so I found another outlet: inflicting pain on the football field. But pain doesn’t just disappear- it will find another way of coming to the surface. For this Five Minute Friday, I revisited a conversation I had with Brene Brown where she explained how hate is just a mask for pain. Dr. Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston where she holds the Huffington Brené Brown Endowed Chair at The Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past fourteen years studying courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy and is the author of three #1 New York Times bestsellers – The Gifts of Imperfection, Daring Greatly, and Rising Strong. If you look at the world today, people are pointing fingers looking for someone to blame so they don’t have to confront what’s inside. We are much better at causing pain than feeling pain. Learn how to tolerate discomfort in Episode 882. In This Episode You Will Learn: How Brene thinks we can heal the country (2:00) The reason why people hate (2:30) How Lewis had trouble dealing with loss (03:00) The toxic type of leadership you need to be aware of (4:00) If you enjoyed this episode, check out the video, show notes and more at http://www.lewishowes.com/882 and follow at www.instagram.com/lewishowes

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0:00.0

This is 5 Minute Friday!

0:07.0

Her name is Dr. Brunei Brown and she is a research professor at the University of Houston.

0:15.0

She has spent the past 16 years studying courage, vulnerability, shame and empathy, and is

0:21.3

the author of 3 Number One New York Times Best Sellers, the gifts of imperfection, daring

0:27.0

greatly and rising strong.

0:29.6

In her latest book, Braving the Wilderness, the quest for true belonging and the courage

0:34.4

to stand alone is out right now.

0:37.6

Now her TED Talk, the power of vulnerability, is one of the top 5 most viewed TED Talks

0:43.9

in the world with over 30 million views.

0:47.0

In addition to her research and writing, Brunei is the founder and CEO of Brave Leaders Inc.

0:52.2

An organization that brings empirically based courage building programs to teams, leaders,

0:58.3

entrepreneurs, change makers and culture shifters.

1:04.6

I can't imagine a way through what needs to happen over the next decade that does not involve

1:15.6

understanding pain.

1:18.6

There's this incredible James Baldwin quote that says,

1:21.1

Now I understand why people hold onto their hate so stubbornly, because once they let

1:26.7

it go, there's nothing but pain.

1:31.7

And I think we dismiss and don't care about that pain at our own peril, because pain will

1:37.9

make itself known.

1:40.4

It will not be dismissed.

1:41.4

It's not an affect or an emotion that dissipates when it's ignored.

1:46.4

Yeah.

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