Welcome back to the podcast. My name is Joseph Clough and this is episode 840. And in today's episode, we're

going into how to stop people pleasing. It is a common kind of subject which kind of pops up

when people reach out to me that ultimately they feel like they have to or they need to

people please in order to feel okay but the reality is they never do feel okay because it only leads to these high

expectations what we place upon ourselves which also feeds into their expectations

because that becomes the normal, but you go ahead and people please. And that means the balance of

relationship can be very, very uneven, even to the point where you'll get taken advantage of.

People will go, ah ah this person does this

so therefore they're going to keep on doing it and even add more things to the things that

you'd be doing and it can become a such a big issue because ultimately no matter what we do we never feel good on the inside

by people pleasing we never feel enough and we just feel more exhausted it's a very tiring process

when it comes to people pleasing.

And we can go into the origins of where and how it came about soon.

But at first, I want us to get into how we do it.

Like what is the how? What is the process?

And this is where you get to ask questions, because this episode is about

making the unconscious conscious, becoming consciously aware of the unconscious processes of people

pleasing. Because otherwise, it's just going to remain dormant, but activated beneath the

surface. It's just dormant to you. You don't know why you do, what you do, how you do it. And it's an

important first step for you to discover that, to understand it, to figure out where the triggers are,

when it happens, how it happens in the present moment,

or in the very recent past or the future, for when you do, you can start to do something about it.

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