Well, hello there and welcome to the Terry Cole show. I am so happy. You decided to join me today.

You guys have been asking me to do a follow-up to my auto-accommodating episode that I did a couple of years ago for a long time.

People are like, more about this. Tell me more about

where I can see it in my daily life. Help me more with auto accommodating. So hey, this is exactly

what we are talking about today. That episode, that video that I did that episode of the Terry Cole show went viral talking about auto-accommodating because so many people were like, oh my God, that is me.

That is what I'm doing.

This reflexive, almost like instant habit of adjusting ourselves before we even check in with what we need, how we feel, what we want. So today I'm going to spend some real time sort of breaking down like this is not just a bad habit. That's not even what we're talking about. This is a pattern of relating. And it's really important that we break it down and that you understand it.

So for many of you, high functioning codependence, super capable over responsible people,

this is a super common pattern that is informing your relationships, your stress levels, your resentment, and your sense of self.

So we're going to slow it on down in today's episode and get super duper practical.

But before we do that, I just want to say thank you, thank you, thank you for being here.

There's a zillion other pods you could be listening to, but I love that you are snuggled up with me right now listening to this pod. I really do appreciate your presence. It really means the world to me that you take time out of your day to spend time with me. So if you love the show, if you want to support it, it helps me so much if you rate review and subscribe and Apple Podcasts. I want to say, shout out to Lovely Lady 493762930. I swear, that's the

handle. Thank you for this five-store review for the Terry Cole Show. Incredible. Always

incredible. Oh, where to begin. Listening to Terry is a blessing and investing in her course has been a

godsend. So grateful for all her words. Creshing codependency is worth the investment. Shout out to Mark

Groves because we co-lead that. And I'm assuming all of her courses are as well. I'd highly recommend

the audiobook for Boundary Boss. Terry's voice is soothing and the book is read by her personally.

Well, thank you, lovely lady, 493762930. I really appreciate you taking the time to write that five-star review.

All right, you guys, let's move it on into today's episode.

Thank you. on into today's episode. This is the Terry Cole show, and as you might have guessed, I'm your host, Terry Cole.

For over two decades, I've been a licensed psychotherapist, love and boundaries expert,

and I'm also the founder of The Real Love Revolution and Boundary Boot Camp. On this show,

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