Hi, I'm Helen from Amazing If and in this week's bonus episode, I'm going to be focusing on the three things that can undermine your confidence and the things that you can do to stop that happening.

So number one is about being defeatist. Sometimes your attitude can really undermine your confidence and you might be in a situation where you've got a confidence

gremlin like, I don't know enough, or I'm not good at presenting, or I'm too young. And what you

might think is that you can do nothing about that and you're kind of stuck with this confidence

gremlin for life. That is rarely ever the case. And while sometimes we might not be in control of

the situation that we're in, we're always in control of our response to that situation.

So the best thing to do if you feel yourself slipping into kind of a defeatist mode

is to start to think about the positive action that you can take.

So if you do feel maybe you're too young,

start thinking about how you can focus on the experience that you have got and the

value you can add. If you're starting to think I don't know enough, start to think about what do I

actually need to know for this? How can I summarise and add value at a higher level? There is often

always a positive action that we can take that can get us out of this trap of being defeatist.

Number two is about thinking about the people that can get us out of this trap of being defeatist. Number two is about thinking about the

people that can undermine your confidence. Surrounding yourself with mood hovers or kind of draining

people can really undermine your confidence. So just take a look around and look at the people

that you're interacting with. The more positive and confident dynamic people that you're interacting with, the more positive and confident,

dynamic people that you can interact with, the more that behaviour is going to start

reflecting on you and you're going to start to embrace some of that attitude yourself in

terms of what you're doing at work and how you're coming across. And the third thing is about

when sometimes you might try something new, when you're testing

out with your confidence gremlins, and you might get a no or you might get a rejection,

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